I have this dilemma i am trying to figure out.

After i went RP, I am trying to hold frame. So recently i was at a party, where there was this guy - definitely alpha. Had this bad boy vibe around him, he was pretty serious at all time and i could say that he was definitely the alpha of the party.

So was i trying to be as well. I don't have any problems with him, we got along well, but what i noticed is that, since i am a fun guy and like to crack jokes and am pretty good at it, comparing to this guy, it looked like i was losing frame, due to cracking jokes and making girls laugh.

Not that i was clown of the party, but when a girl was doing a talk, i'd throw in a word or two into her story, that would make her burst laughing. I didn't perform standup performance.

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So, how do you maintain holding frame, being alpha and at the same time, be easy going fun guy?

Does this two work along?