Does deep conversation kill attraction?

Insendi · 2018-02-13T19:23:44+00:00

Me and my girl

I'm assuming she's a LTR so I don't see why not. If she's a plate then you're using a plate wrong

zboo1h · 2018-02-13T19:50:26+00:00

Being unattractive kills attraction.

You could talk about caterpillars racing snails on a Kentucky Derby track. If she is attracted enough to you, she would fuck you.

htbf · 2018-02-13T19:38:09+00:00

Only if you are making it boring.

So the answer is no.

drapermeetsdapper · 2018-02-13T19:57:54+00:00

Gauge how much substance you think the girl has and go from there. If you ask deep questions to a girl and she's giving you short replies or seems uninterested, change the subject to something more playful. Otherwise, keep it going but make sure that she is doing most of the talking. The more she talks, the more mysterious you are and the better it is. Bonus points if you ask her deep questions they never thought about. Girls I get with love it when I ask them hardball questions.

If you do find that you are talking the whole time, they will lose their attraction to you. UNLESS you are passionate about what you're saying. You can still save it if that's the case. Very few things attract women more than seeing that you're passionate about something. Make sure you show that in any deep conversation that you have.

I have a bad habit of getting into deep conversations where I end up talking way too much. BUT I am still able seal the deal as long as I am passionate about what I am saying. Bonus points if you can be passionate about something they are already passionate about.

319Skew · 2018-02-13T23:20:02+00:00

Yes and No. Opening up can backfire as it takes away from your mystery but inversely if you are knowledgeable and articulate enough, it turns them on.

When in doubt ask yourself: If she was to brag about this to her friends, would they be impressed? If yes, then congrats you've gained more value. If they say no then you've just lost value.

redhawkes · 2018-02-13T19:27:43+00:00

Keep those intellectual conversations for your friends, she'll dry fast if you bore her. Her modus operandi is emotions, not rational and logical thinking.

Just treat her like a bratty sister, lead, AM, and fuck her good aka have fun. Make her feel anything than bored, go and actually do something with her instead of just talking.

Hit the sidebar for more.

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-02-13T19:26:14+00:00

It can. Ask The Shermanator®.

[deleted] · 2018-02-13T20:11:56+00:00

Just don't drone on about neck bearded atheism and how religion flies people into buildings.

Aesthetik_1 · 2018-02-13T23:25:40+00:00

In my experience, for what ever odd reason it may be, Yes. I observed this numerous times.

At least when attraction is not yet established

At the same time keeping things shallow with immature teasing and even flat out disrespect didn't at all.

Kind of pathetic really but what can you do

zboo1h · 2018-02-13T23:29:46+00:00

Deep conversation is fine if that's part of you and what you want to do. If you want to have the convo, and she can tell you're just being congruent with yourself, it's fine. Also, be attractive.

Now should EVERY encounter with her involve deep discussions and sharing emotions and stuff? No. You're a man, not a tampon.

Merwebb · 2018-02-14T01:02:59+00:00

I've had great conversations like that with girls I've been with, and as other said here, as long as she sees you atractive, and i would add if she is the type of girl that is actually enjoyable to talk to, listen and interchange ideas in this tipe of conversation, nothing wrong comes out of it.

Is all in the frame you have. In how you project things. Relax bro.

dr_warlock · 2018-02-14T03:18:28+00:00

The only time you should be deep with a girl is being deep in her pussy.

DadOnDabs · 2018-02-14T03:44:19+00:00

If your vetting her for LTR or is an LTR then go for it. Plates don't get that talk.

Title	Does deep conversation kill attraction?
Author	drapermeetsdapper
Upvotes	3
Comments	20
Date	February 13, 2018 7:21 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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