A once plate now my LTR is a married woman.We are both aware we have a partner at home and she is very aware that I have options. We see each other regularly (work) and 90% of the encounters are sexual. Shes submissive, sex is great and I enjoy her company. (I am aware she is definitely no unicorn). We have been seeing each other for months now and I have 0 complaints besides maybe the following.

Shes highly attracted to me due to my DGAF attitude and ive aced most if not all of her shit tests ( thanks to trp and sidebar). Shes gotten heavily attached and she started telling me things like she wishes it was us together instead of our partners, etc etc. It feels good knowing this and hearing this although i barely show any affection towards it.

Every now and then I do sprinkle in some a bit of beta behavior I suppose like telling her how shes on my mind but its usually in response to something similar she would tell me first although she is. It was never my intention to get a bit attached , it was just hi, sex , and bye. She recently said to me that shes confused about us and that she really likes me but she feels guilty and doesnt know what to do anymore because all she thinks about is me.

A day after, she asks me if we should end things to which I tell her that if thats her wish then ok. she responds to saying its what we need to do and shes annoyed that she wants me and cant have me. This was via text btw.

I say nothing else , since I had already said ok. She boomerangs back the very next day and says hello. She asked about my day and I said its good and pretty much left it at that.

I would like to keep her since she was a good plate/Ltr for me. Ive read stuff in the meantime to see if my actions where ok by soft nexting but im also seeing that she had already boomeranged back and I shouldve just gone from there. Other posts suggest that I should reach out if i want to keep her but not to DEER.

Am I applying the wrong dread, too much, or how would you guys approach this scenario? we havent spoken since, im waiting either to see her in a few days and pretend nothing she said is relevant or just wait until she hits me up again and go from there.

Edit: First line.