Dropping vices

FrozenTreeStump · 2019-11-06T15:34:53+00:00

Find better things to do with your time to help you reach goals or get creative or whatever you want. Don’t get hard on yourself if you cave in. Just know you fucked up and gotta get back on track the next day. Don’t wait to “reset” another week.

New habits take time to build and old habits take time to shake.

Gandalfthegrey2323 · 2019-11-06T15:42:02+00:00

I read a book called “the science of self discipline” a while back. The book talks about how discipline is a muscle. Now I’m certain everyone has heard this. Studies actually back this up. The author of the book explains self discipline like a tank of fuel. This is because studies have shown if you throw someone (anyone not just addicts) into a room with something that triggers dopamine release(like a cookie for example), they will eventually eat it. So how do you most effectively combat this? Get rid of the cookie.

You can’t always do this but temptation is your biggest enemy. If you have a porn addiction, get a blocker. If it’s junk food don’t buy it. If it’s video games sell your console. People contrive this as being weak and say “oh that person has no self discipline.” This is just being smart. If I’m trying to avoid something, why would I have it in my house? Doesn’t make sense. Some people are genetically at risk to have a harder time with this. But everyone has vices. The guy who is giving you shit for selling your Xbox is secretly masturbating to often or some other vice.

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2019-11-06T21:47:51+00:00

Long term mindset is big here. Also, that every decision matters. Change is a product of many small good decisions. Maximize those good decisions, minimize bad ones. It's a continuous process, not a good day / bad day.

fannyfire · 2019-11-07T00:48:54+00:00

What got me away from smoking cigarettes, pot, hard drugs and drinking alcohol was a combination of things.

Lifting or exercise will put a stop to smoking quick. It’s hard to be a runner and smoke. I used to run 5k and 10k races but when I smoked I couldn’t do that anymore. The feeling of wanting to come back made me stop cold turkey.

Second thing that helped with drugs and alcohol was ditching or severely limiting my time with other addicts.

Addicts need to be friends with other addicts because it validates their addiction. If your faggot friends get wasted every weekend and play video games but complain about how they can’t get laid. Drop the friends and pick up some new ones. Be your own friend if you have to. Be your own wingman. It is better than staying inside with your friends.

It will be hard because that’s the life you’ve always lived. It will be uncomfortable because now you’ve got to be sober but man it’s so worth it. It has been ten years and my bro’s are still up to their same shit. Can’t attract any decent girls, their bodies are depreciating and they have zero direction or care for absolutely anything. It’s sad and I grew the balls to raise my standards.

Title	Dropping vices
Author	SouthernProcess
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	November 6, 2019 3:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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