Erectile Dysfunction, haven't watched porn habitually in ages still struggling

1v1mebruh · 2016-07-01T19:28:37+00:00

BOYS I MADE SOME PROGRESS.

I doubt people are reading this, but I'll post it anyways. Here's how:

I got high before seeing her. I vape weed rather than smoke it, it gives me all the mental positives of being high like increased extroversion and comfort with your own emotions without making your mind dull or drowsy. Tbh I prefer going to clubs vaped out off weed than drunk or tipsy, get way better reactions out of girls, way more outgoing, etc. ANYWAYS.
I meditated an ass ton yesterday. I meditated for like a combined total of an hour or so over a few sessions, reaaaally helped me clear my head and just be like "yo, why is this tripping you up? she wants to fuck the shit out of you, you want to fuck the shit out of her, etc. etc." and just get out of that negative loop of "of fuck we need to have sex now" and then getting anxious and killing the vibe and losing confidence. This helped kill all my anxiety.
I also focused on pleasing myself and just doing what turned me on, and lo and behold it was wayyyyy more fun, no stress, just like daaamn this is fuckin sick. This in combination with number two helped kill like all my performance anxiety. And the weed helped me be able to have that high reminder of "why the fuck do I care? just have fun".
Now I have some positive momentum rolling. We met at my place, fingered her hard until she came, she was moaning like crazy. Then suuuuuper passionate kissing and making out and groping because I was high and feeling it and she was reciprocating. She had to leave soon to grab a flight but she sucked my dick for a while and it felt a lot better than yesterday. I could tell it still wasn't gonna work but that didn't phase me out at all, I knew that a few more days of nofap noporn would make my situation even better, I just told her (after 5 minutes of getting head) that this might take a whil (hint hint) and she was like for sure I should probably catch my flight anyways etc. etc. and then we just kept grabbing eachother and making out hella hard. I slapped her ass super hard a couple times and was really using my strength when I was holding her and god that felt amazing and she loved it. She could feel my dick getting hella hard just rubbing against her and making out so she knows my dick's cool, when she gets back from her trip in like 5 days I'll have even more time off and a Dr.'s appointment where hopefully I can get some viagra to really just seal the fuckin deal.

But MAN I really need that physical chemistry of me leading and her submitting to turn me on, and it wasn't that she wasn't submitting, I was just in my own head too much and wasn't confidently leading. Now I feel that connection and it's like "yeah, this is how it's supposed to be, this feels fucking good" and not "oh shit, time to step up, gotta do this gotta do this, oh shit oh fuck it's time".

Anyways, I think I still have some deathgrip wearing off cuz of the BJ not feeling amazing yet, but give it 5 more days of not touching my dick and no porn or visual stimulation and I know it's only gonna get harder and more sensitive. My animal sense of hunger is coming into play now so I feel really good about everything. Just gotta keep building momentum.

And what helps ground me the most? This is MY BITCH. She wants to fuck ME. She wants to be touched and pleased by ME. It just reminds me "why the fuck are you trippin? just have fun, she just wants you how you are, nothing's expected of you just do what you enjoy doing and she'll enjoy it too".

Anyways, thanks a lot for the ideas yesterday, not trying to sound like a bitch but I was fucking spooked man, because I swear I thought I had shaken this whole issue, but fast forward to today and it's clear that ya I've gotten out of 80% of it but just have a bit more to go. Almost there boys, thanks a lot, sorry for the fat text, over and out.

NubbyNuss · 2016-07-01T01:51:46+00:00

How old are you? Sounds like an endless loop of performance anxiety to me. If you can, get access to cialis/viagra. I had this issue aswell thinking it was due to porn, but once I had sex on cialis a couple of times, I never needed it again. Sometimes you just need to use it as a crutch to let your mind know it isn't worth the anxiety you're having.

If you're just desensitized, you can purchase a fleshlight and masturbate with that. It's effective for restoring sensitivity, which will certainly not take 2 weeks to be normal again.

GreenBananaTruthers · 2016-07-01T01:41:15+00:00

Try having her start with the HJ, then jump on and ride you when you're real close to climaxing. Finishing inside her may help you mentally get over the hump.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-07-01T02:11:15+00:00

Hey man, very similar to you here. Made a similar thread a few weeks ago. 26, had PiV sex twice with an escort. Every other girl before couldn't get hard. I'll quickly tell you my timeline and where I am now: Up to age 25, virgin, used a lot of porn, had PIED with girls

Did Nofap for 3 months. Everything was fixed. Got hard in appropriate situations.

Did another 3 months and then lost my ability to get hard.

Started PMO again and started getting hard again.

Stopped PMO and stopped getting hard.

Masturbated without porn and didn't get hard.

Had no desire to masturbate or anything.

Got back on the PMO train until I wanted to masturbate all the time, got into the habit of daily wanking.

So now I use PMO for a week and then don't use it for a couple weeks and this seems to work for me. It's not conventional but it's working for me.

I saw a comment from someone on a thread saying your body will adapt to the level of masturbation/fucking you do. If you wank at least every few days you'll train your body to get erections at that rate. THEN you can take some time off and build up the desire if necessary. But it has to be the exception to the rule, not the rule itself. I used to be heavy into /r/NoFap but they just preach a lot of shit I've come to realise. If you don't use it, you lose it. That's the reality.

Check out the /u/OmLaLa series of posts 'The Power Of Horny'

ecosci · 2016-07-01T02:18:30+00:00

It could be all mental, sure wouldnt hurt to see the dr. to check yout t levels.

ShallITinder · 2016-10-08T18:23:36+00:00

Good work on the progress OP but maybe stop spamming threads and actually answer the questions on them rather than crying on them? Maybe you should fix the limp dick and being broke problem before crying about what posts others are making on here.

Title	Erectile Dysfunction, haven't watched porn habitually in ages still struggling
Author	1v1mebruh
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	July 1, 2016 1:33 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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