Posted this in the wrong forum earlier, and told to post it here instead:

I'm having trouble finding the line between being a creep and assuming attraction!

Trying to learn about 'game' and stuff, but I just feel as though it's really how good looking you are that actually makes her attracted to you? (''game is for 'yes girls' and 'maybe girls'. She needs a baseline of attraction towards you initially to have a shot'')

On occasion, i'll cold approach a girl in a bar, I can sense that she's into me, and then this gives me the confidence to physically escalate or verbally escalate and tell her that I think she's hot basically. This now allows her to escalate back without fear of rejection, and then it all goes well

However, i'm not a good looking dude, and so most of the time, I don't feel as though i'm getting any attraction and thus I never really escalate.

I'm not sure of the best techniques to actually 'build attraction' (or if they actually exist). I tend to just ask the girl questions and show that i'm interested in her, try to squeeze in a DHV story if the opportunity arises, and tease her IF the opportunity arises.

I had an interaction with a hot, but shy girl last night who I have met a few times through a friend and so it's almost ''social circle game' which makes escalating without IOI's even harder as the embarrassment/awkwardness would be worse in the case of rejection. Keep playing the interaction over in my head, wondering what I could have said/done. I'm putting myself in the friendzone here, but I kind of feel I have no options as i'm not feeling the attraction from her

So my questions are:

What actual 'things' do you do/say in interactions/conversation in order to make the girl attracted to you to the point that she is giving you IOI's?

What techniques do you use to go from 'chit chat' (as in the case of the social circle girl) to 'game' without it being clumsy? Clever ways to show intent and escalate that at the same time don't put all of the eggs in one basket?

Do any of you have any 'go too' moves for this sort of thing that you re-use almost as a personal 'routine'?