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Failed a comfort test

kabhi23 · 2017-01-14T23:40:47+00:00

So I realized I failed a comfort test last night, but it was too late to go back. I've been seeing this girl for 3months now and I usually just deflect...

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January 14, 2017

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Title	Failed a comfort test
Author	kabhi23
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	January 14, 2017 11:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5o0mws/failed_a_comfort_test/
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[–]roseillus1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]kabhi23 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

your frame is what you start with, and it's what you have going into an ltr, not something that you create just for the ltr

either you get drawn into her frame or she gets drawn into yours

let's say we have a chick named nancy and she knows these two dudes, chad the alpha pussy slayer and jeff the friend zoned beta

if chad says something nice to her, it means the world to her because of the frame from which its said. jeff could say the exact same fucking thing to her, word-for-word, and it will mean absolutely jack shit to her, and again, it's because of the frame (or context if you want to call it that)

the context for chad saying something nice to her is a context of him being desirable, attractive, not pandering to her. he doesn't say nice things to her all the fucking time, so the few times he does, it means a shitload to her and makes her heart pound

the context for jeff saying something nice to her is that he's always saying nice shit to her, so it means nothing to her

she also feels like there's more truth to what chad is telling her because she knows he's not just going to tell her what she wants to hear. she's pretty sure jeff will always tell her what [he thinks] she wants to hear

go google "that rational male frame" without quotes and read the first post that comes up

frame is one of those things that's kind of tricky to understand at first, but when you do, it's like you're playing on easy mode

giving some amount of comfort (from within an alpha frame) will only make you more attractive

edit: forgot to address this point in particular, it's because it helps to lower her inhibitions about you using her, only wanting her for sex, being too good for her, blah blah all that chick speak shit, so she can fully experience your awesomeness without filtering it for herself.

you've seen this shit and i'm sure everyone here has seen this shit where a chick gets a present at christmas or w/e and the first thing she has to do is put it down somehow. "oh thi sis the wrong size, the wrong color, idk if i'll ever use it, wtf ever," even if it's exactly what she wanted. it's because she doesn't think she's good enough to get what she wanted, so she feels guilty about it. it's the same kind of thing with wanting some alpha cox up in her, a little comfort here and there (ie: sprinkle some beta on it) eases that guilt and allows her to stop fighting it

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