I am very outgoing and social in networking event. I went to a fetlife munch because I want to explore my sexual range more. I sit down and immediately connect with the people at my table, very casual conversations, how they discovered this event, what they are into, etc.

So at first this girl and I talk causally, she is sitting diagonal to me. Now as soon as her friend leaves, she is sitting on her own, looking like she is withdrawn, not sure of what to do with herself, looking around the room for a connection to pursue. I engage in conversation with her at this point seeing this. I mean, I feel like I had already built a small rapport with her, so it should be easy right, to go a litter deeper in the conversation 1-on-1.

This is where I get a little annoyed, and I want to ask the community what they would have done in this situation, and what the alternative course of actions might have yielded:

I ask her, "why not move over as the seat sitting right across from me is free and we would talk". She was like "why"? So I joked it off saying "fair", because maybe I was not calibrated. But it immediately showed me her lack of interest. [Q1: Should I have asked this? Or should I use it as an indicator that she is interested if she move a seat over after we continued the conversation, or when I asked for it. I just want to be efficient in picking up on when a girl has attraction for me]

Now we are talking and I feel the connection is going sideways. Why? Because, She is looking side to side, she is looking uncomfortable answering, it feels like the convo is a bit surface level and dull. She is firing 101 question at me in succession, which to me feels very nervous, and lacks intimacy from her part. So in a nutshell I feel like she is either nervous and scared of me, or she is just not feeling this connection and wants to abort.

I was getting annoyed, I wanted to ask: Q2: Are you nervous or scared of me? Q3: You seem fidgety

Both of which I did not ask because I felt like it would have put her in the defensive and made her feel judged, and it could have gotten awkward. So I just waited for a pause, and I began talking to a person next to me. Then a short while later I excused myself from the table and talked with other people at the event. The connections I made later on were better.

I am okay with my decision, but it feels like I should have woke her up [penetrated her] to show her how she was showing up. Maybe it's my ego getting bruised because I felt like she did not want to connect with me.

Q4: Should I have pushed her for what's going on for her? Q5: Am I right in cutting the interaction short, and moving on to find better suitors.