Flipping the "Anger phase".. progress?

mswiss · 2014-07-15T15:19:13+00:00

Youll get passed it when you come to the conclusion that other people shouldn't control your emotions

mswiss · 2014-07-15T15:52:01+00:00

Yea i worded that wrong. Youve definitely made progress, youve realized what someone would normally do to make you react a certain way emotionally. After a while you wont have to think about it as much and it will just be a natural stoic reaction

[deleted] · 2014-07-16T13:25:53+00:00

How long is "quite some time"?

RedPillJohnny · 2014-07-15T18:56:13+00:00

I tried to skip the Anger Phase in the past by "flipping it" and discovered that this phase must be gone through...it may last a really long time, forever for some men, sometimes only a month or two for others, but you have to go through it. I am not at all saying that we should let our anger control us (that is blue pill) but we have to realize that it is a phase and it cannot be skipped and can only be flipped once you have experienced it properly. I was angry for years and years and didn't even know why until I found this sub...and then I got even angrier! I thought I had gone through this stage already but here I was raging at the smallest slight. And that is because I never went through the anger phase properly. I fooled myself into thinking that I was over it when I wasn't.

Now that I have gone through it I am finding it hard to be angry at the same stuff that 6 months ago would have ruined my day. Even reading this sub over today, I feel none of the same anger I used to, thanks to all of the examples I read in the past from my fellow bros who went through the same thing.

Anger is a motivator as well. Things piss you off and your blood gets riled and away you go, for better or for worse (certainly worse if you are reacting to your emotions and not your rational mind). But after this phase is over and the challenge has been met, pretty soon you are going fast and furious without the anger because you have sincerely addressed the cause of your anger with some actions of your own.

[deleted] · 2014-07-15T22:12:18+00:00

You have to get to the point where you decide you're tired of being angry.

It has to be a conscious choice. You could turn to the bottle, start drinking, become a bitter recluse, OR you could redirect that energy into self improvement projects like lifting, a sport, building something, playing an instrument, whatever. It's up to you.

You will always keep running into things that will make you angry. Some women will always be narcissistic cunt bags, some men will always be white knight fucktards. But when you practice redirection toward positive outlets, you begin to ascend to a place of acceptance and use that energy for the better.

Before long it will become second nature, and you'll be able to laugh at the stupidity from a superior position.

Title	Flipping the "Anger phase".. progress?
Author	Gomezie
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	July 15, 2014 2:40 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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