So I’m turning 43 tomorrow. Got with my HS sweetheart when I was 17. Only slept with one other chick during a 6 month break up we had during college when I was 20. Married with 4 kids and was faithful until the writing was on the wall and the marriage was essentially over. In all honesty I gave everything I had to my family. The ex is a combination of BPD and narcissism traits, but those didn’t kick in until we were about 30. I could write a novel about it and go on forever. I was never beta, but would definitely make concessions just so my kids could have a smooth and calmer day to day. Once my youngest turned 8 in 2019 and could understand what was going on I got the fuck out.

So in July of 2019 I was single and separated for the first time in my life. I had no idea that finding women who wanted to fuck me would be this easy at my age. To be fair my Dad is Asian, but I only look like I am white/European decent, with the Asian genes helping me look no older than 30. I am also in pretty great shape for my age, but could probably improve my ab game if I wanted to put forth the discipline and effort. I’m not saying any of this to brag or look like a douche, just for context.

I am honestly blown away by the women 27 and under that are down to fuck without much effort. A superficial shirtless pic and some flirty banter and it’s on. Many say some version of the same thing “ Older guys know what they’re doing” etc. I actually got bored with it all a few months back. Is it because I am/ was more of a relationship guy my whole life? Maybe. I feel like it’s more of the superficial nature of the encounters. Less passionate and more just down right fucking the life out of them like I am some kind of pornstar. I am sure some of them had boyfriends as well. Some of you may laugh at that, but that is where my question arises. Is it a generational thing? Don’t get me wrong, the women I’ve dated in their 30’s want to get fucked properly as well, but are also on the hunt for commitment as that hard wall approaches.

Then comes the race question. In my experience black women are very aggressive with me. I have a job where I interact with the general public in the inner city all day long. They literally come up to me and touch my biceps/rub my arm and are very direct saying things like “When are you gonna come smash this?” They give zero fucks and let you know exactly where you stand. It seems every other race of women want some form of plausible deniability or a way to save face and embarrassment if you are not interested. They will chat you up and beat around the bush but ultimately want to be pursued on some level.

So what are your observations on all this? I don’t claim to have all the answers. Just a guy enjoying his new life for the last 18 months. I’d love to hear your perspectives and experiences. Happy Thanksgiving to my Stateside brethren. To those of you across the globe I simply wish you a good rest of your day.