I am looking for advice on how to get back out there when COVID-19 ends (which I know could be a while). I quit drinking about 22 months ago and since I did my socially life and ability to get women reduced significantly. Due to the fact that I developed into more of an asshole than I wanted to be, I had a beta-relapse after I quit because I thought I had gone too far. I discovered TRP in 2014 and it has been a huge help to me. I have immense gratitude towards this sub. I definitely got stuck in the anger phase and monk mode for a couple years. I left the anger phase a while ago and I would like to leave monk mode.

I am tall, good looking, buff (lifting for 5+ years), and pretty alpha. Before I was arrogant. Now I am looking to build real confidence. I have hobbies, started my own business, and I am about to apply to graduate school. I would like to start spinning plates. I have tried tinder but I don't have time to play the numbers game and there are so many scams. I would like to meet people in person. My game revolved significantly around alcohol and without it I am like a fish out of water. I am hoping that someone can give me steps that I can take to regain my confidence and suave. My friends have told me that I am not the most approachable person and that it is very much up to me to be more open and engaging. That was never my strategy when I had more social connections so I am not as comfortable with this as I should be.