Getting committment?

asd1100 · 2015-01-31T19:42:31+00:00

'm trying to lock down a quality women for a LTR

you can't handle a LTR with a modern woman, without learning to deal with women in general. That is achieved by casual sex.

but it seems like the attraction that I can build for casual sex isn't easily translatable into locking down a decent girl for a relationship.

Well they are different, also it sounds like your frames are superficial, they inflated bullshit and you aren't all that great of a catch beyond that.

I've only had one relationship, this is when I was 15 and it only lasted for two months. I'm 18 at the moment and whilst I've been enjoying being single (starting university = much more sexual interaction with girls), I've decided I want a change of pace.

:))

Have fun kid. Fuck the sluts, have long walks in the park with romantics while tripping balls and date the "serious girls" all at once. Go balls to the walls they are made of pussy in college. Just don't get anyone pregnant and you'll do fine.

Pussyfooting around with this bitchs as attitude of I need a mommy substitute, will make you a wimp however. I genuinely don't give a shit what you want now and you shouldn't either.

You don't have a clue what life is, so stop using that teen brain and "wanting" shit. Do what makes you a better man tomorrow, not what you think will calm down your emotional insecurities today.(hint: nothing will calm you down, you will just find other avenues in a vicious cycle of pathing up your feels)

DocObvious_ · 2015-01-31T05:27:07+00:00

What are you doing to better yourself?

PlebDestroyer · 2015-01-31T07:00:58+00:00

No expert here but this is my take on it.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. When a woman opens her gates of sex to lots of men, she is devaluing herself. Her vagina becomes a not-so-exclusive club, she becomes a slut.

And here I see you doing the same exact thing as a slut. Except you're not giving away your vagina freely, you're actively looking to give away your commitment freely.

Just as the slut loses value the more she sleeps around, you lose value when you eagerly and needily try to commit. This may be one of the reasons you are having trouble locking women down. Instead of you asking her to be exclusive, she should be begging for your exclusivity. If you were alpha, this would be the case.

Nonetheless, you don't have to be alpha to get a girlfriend, it actually turns out to be one of the few ways bottom 80% men can get frequent sex whilst in college. The only thing that you can do to supplement this is raise your SMV, and talk to more women. Simple. Eventually you'll find one that will settle for you. Note however, this type of relationship will not be nearly as strong as it would for an alpha who's woman begged for exclusivity. This woman knows for a fact and faces 'dread' in knowing that her alpha man is so high SMV that he could easily leave. You on the other hand give off this beta aura of neediness and she knows you aren't/can't go anywhere so why not go suck some alpha cock on the side?

I hope you see where I'm coming from.

If you want to be the alpha guy instead who has the woman begging for exclusivity then simply do as the sidebar says and get plates (and feel free to have more ONS).

To do this you need to make yourself physically attractive and read up on game. I hope you're not a history major because being good financially also boosts your SMV. So in other words, hit the gym, read the TRP sidebar, read TRP recommended books, and read PUA books for more knowledge on game (read models now!).

Once you do these things and obtain the abundance mentality, you'll have no problems getting a gf. I just don't know why you'd want to.

couchpotatocarl · 2015-01-31T08:21:51+00:00

Getting commitment?

You give it not get it. Focus on your perspective.

oldredder · 2015-01-31T09:29:29+00:00

There's almost no nice women in existence to make a nice girlfriend. Women don't want to commit, they settle when they feel they can't get better.

crazydave1979 · 2015-01-31T15:02:59+00:00

For starters, instead of bars and tinder, pick up girls n church. Be warned, church girls are more likely to demand marriage.

Title	Getting committment?
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Date	January 31, 2015 3:51 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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