So is there a middle ground that I can stand on? I have a RP mentor and this person has guided me to a better place but this person is so RP sometimes that I feel conflicted. Let me give examples and some back story.

I've always been considered an attractive guy who didn't have problems attracting girls. The problem was my BP pussy mentality. Hindsight tells me that I probably had females gushing over me, telling themselves how lucky they were that I was into them. Little did I know that my BP, pussy, nice guy attitude would dry up their boxes faster than sun in the Sahara. Now, I'm constantly bettering myself and not getting caught in the same mistakes with women (and people in general). TRP has made me better and more confident. The dilemma I have is that I tend to be very objective. I really try to look at things for face value and from both sides.

For example, the idea of plates makes sense to me. As a man, in order to protect yourself from a female tossing you out like a used tissue you must have other females in the mix so you don't get left for dead - abundance mentality. This idea stems from my mentality that if I'm talking to an attractive girl odds are she's talking to other guys too. She's weighing the pros and cons and choosing which one she'd like to be with more (LTR). The reality is I'm doing the same...so why should I "next" a girl whom I see value in just because she's doing the same thing?

In the past couple of months I'm getting dates left and right via tinder, bumble, and life in general. I'm looking for an LTR ultimately. So there's these two girls whom I actually see potential with. Girl A is doing big things in school, really artistic, and we have a lot in common. I smashed relatively quickly and then focused my attention on B (Wanted to see if the grass is greener). B is also cute, has a good job but she's a bit bland and I don't have as much in common with her. We go out to dinner, we smash and I realize I have more going on with A. So I switch gears. I take A out to dinner (and pay like an idiot) and we have a great night. She tells me that she wants to hang soon later that week (I realize this can all be bullshit). She bails saying shes busy with school. She's used that excuse before, but then I see her on snapchat with other guys and shit. Okay, no problem, so I make plans with some bumble chick. I find out from friends Girl A was with some other dude this weekend...am I pissed? No. More so just realizing this is how it's going to be. She texts me a week later on V-day some bullshit with all the excuses in the book like she was studying for exams etc (She wants to make sure I'm still on the hook). I was really brief with her, wishing her a happy V-day and good luck on her exams but "I'm busy at work and I'll ttyl." She must have gotten the point.

I like this chick, I'd like to date her. I want an LTR. However , I'm not going to lose sleep if she deads me. I'm going to ignore her until she breaks or maybe I'll give another shot, worst comes to worst I have Girl B and other opportunities. I want to maintain frame, stay objective, and be fair to myself. I can't be mad at a chick for playing the field like me. That's not grounds for a "next" if you actually like the girl. Is it? I think it's more important how you react to the bullshit.

Ultimate question...can I be RP and at the same time be objective. Or do I have to view women in this evil manipulative light at all times (even though sometimes I'm the one laying the hook/bait)?

Basically, I've been used by girls my whole life by taking girls out and paying for their meals because my mother ingrained BP mentality into me from a young age. That I should be a gentleman and ask them out and pay for them etc. That never got me anywhere though. I've competed in bodybuilding competitions. I lift. I'm handsome (other peoples' words, not mine).

My RP mentor says to not hit her up again. And even if she hits me up, to not hit her back for a few days and basically get her hamster wheel going. He says that if a girl likes you, she's going to go out of her way to hang out with you and talk to you. He says I shouldn't have to chase her. He's telling me, especially after I smashed, that she should be into me and not be taking so long to make plans to see me again. He says, "Yea, she likes you. She fucked you. But she also knows you pay for her dinners and there's other guys she likes and has fucked and will pick her up, take her out, and pay for her dinners as well." He says to not be one of those easy "options" for her. He says every girl he's ever fucked or been with came to HIM. He didn't have to chase. If you are good looking, smooth, and have high SMV, girls will come to YOU. The problem is, I really like her. I think I'm getting one-itis. Even though I'm talking to other girls and fucking them, I still prefer her. I think she's playing hard to get. He says no, she just sees me as an option. And the less available I make myself, and the less eager I am to talk to her, and the more I don't give a shit, the more she's gonna wonder why I'm not talking to her. And that will separate me from the rest of the guys that try to get with her on a daily basis. She truly enjoys hanging out with me and we talk often. I want to take her out and chill with her more. But my friend says don't because she isn't as eager to hang out with me as I am with her. I'm trying to see it from both sides. I want to believe she is playing the field and is trying to see who she likes more, just like I am. But my friend says no. That she's just being AWALT and is trying to get as much attention and free shit from me as she can.

He says girls should have to come to ME with little effort on my end. And that I shouldn't be thinking about her this much or caring about her this much. But I'm trying to see it from her side too. That she's doing the same thing I'm doing.

What do you guys think?