Went out with this girl twice (back to back weeks then I skipped her last week). She’s a couple years older than me. She’s 33 but looks young, is cute and fun. No sex up to this point but she blew me and swallowed both times.

Anyway I played it pretty aloof. Gave very minimal comfort. In fact, probably no comfort at all. She gave me a bunch of shit tests about being a player and all that, but I just batted them away with ease.

I proposed plans for this weekend and she just got back to me with this long text essentially saying the following:

She’s divorced so she’s not looking for hookup/drinks dating. Maybe a few years ago but not now. She had a great time with me but thinks we’re looking for two different things. She hopes I get this new job blah blah blah good luck.

My question is do you think there’s anything I should’ve done differently? I feel like I’ve been breaking plates due to lack of comfort. Lack of comfort is great with some girls but back fires on others.

It seems like she’s just over the wall and is scrambling to find a provider. That said, do I need to start mixing in more comfort? Maybe shoot a couple banter texts back and forth before making plans with some plates instead of adhering strictly to logistics only? I’m advanced enough that I wouldn’t shoot my dick off from bad texts.

Also, do you think it’s worth sending a bit of a beta message back to her? I’d say something like “ok no worries, just takes me a while to open up, I had fun with you too, let me know if you change your mind.”

I’m not trying to date her but she’d be a fun little plate to spin for a little while. Thanks in advance for the feedback. Just trying to figure out if there’s a lesson to learn here. And also if it’s worth trying to salvage this one instead of just saying “ok.”