Hi TRP,

I came to you guys last week for some advice and you guys gave me some solid advice which I'm grateful for as I am doing much better. I accidentally deleted my old post so I will try to summarize it best as possible.

Last week when I went to the city I was suppose to pick up this girl from the club she was at since she went there earlier than I did since I was working late. I was also her ride back home at the end of the night. I get into the city and park my car and meet up with a few friends at a different club before going to get her. When I get ready to leave I tell her to take a taxi to the club we were suppose to go together to since the place was a 2-3 min taxi ride around the corner and also because I was a bit tipsy and also because my car was parked 3 blocks away so it just wasn't logical to get my car to get her to drive a few mins and then go back and park and then walk back 3 blocks. She ended up getting super upset getting a ride with someone else and sent me a text saying we need to talk tomorrow.

Next day we ended up texting back and forth and she said that we can remain friends. I fucked up and lost frame and turned super beta to the point where I was pleading to not let it affect the relationship we had. I just got done with a night of rolling so I was feeling quite blue that day too and this threw me into an emotional roller coaster as well. I felt like a piece of shit for 3-4 days. Days leading up to this event I became ridiculously beta to where we were texting all day and I would answer all her calls. I changed and stop putting myself forward and got caught with oneitis.

I was seeing this girl for 3 weeks and I know now I got too emotionally invested in her aka oneitis. I knew her from highschool and we had a thing when we were 19, split ways because I didn't know what I wanted and I left abruptly without even saying anything. Then 5 years later we met up at a concert where I was rolling my face off where she said that was interesting and then saw her again months later at a festival where according to her I was an embarrassing drunk, I do admit I was belligerent also because I blacked out that day. Then we met up recently and were seeing each other and this night at the club happens. She brings all these events of me fucked up and the event when we were 19 when I was pleading saying she lived a life giving people second chances and she is sick of living in disappointment. I caved in let it fuck with me really bad. We had NYE plans and she said we couldn't go together to that so I sent her ticket to her and kept mine saying I was gonna sell it.

Since then we had NC till just now. She texted me saying she couldn't find anybody to sell the ticket to and asked if I was gonna try to make it to NYE. Now I would only go if we went together and I know this party is gonna be a sick party thrown by some top notch dj's so I do want to go because of the music but I don't know anybody else going to this besides her. Otherwise I'm gonna cut my loses and go to my buddy's house party. My intent is for her to come back to chase me and to get myself out of this hole I dug myself. How do I best react to her texting her recently so that whatever happens plays out in my best interest? How do I go about having the best mindset to apply to this whole situation?

I'm still suffering from a bit of oneitis, it is still lingering around but I'm able be mindful about it and be a bit composed. The emotional roller coaster comes and goes but I have a better handle on it. I don't think I'm in the right mindset to make a decision about this right now so I needed your advice on how to go about this situation.

She's a person I would like to have around regardless of if shit works out or not just because I don't like to have any bad animosity with anyone and she is cool to have around from time to time. I can't blame her for being a woman and acting out of hand like this over something really petty since it's hard wired in them to do shit like this but I can blame myself for letting my frame buckle and failing her shit tests. I'm a better version of myself since that day, so I'm grateful for that.

Something I forgot was that the day after our talk she had pictures on her snapchat of her at this ice skating venue we were suppose to go to with other pics of her fancy dinner and her at someone else's house playing with their dog. My only assumption is that she started seeing someone else the next day and went on a date. Then she deleted me off her snapchat as well. I don't know what to think of that, I can be just over thinking it too. I don't know. How do I factor this into how I respond to this situation? What do you think her intent is?

I need guidance, TRP. Thank you in advance.