I always wondered how some of you guys are complete humans not seeking validation from anyone else not needing it and don't care when getting it i never knew how to be a self satisfied man. ever since i was little everything i did i hoped people told me was impressive or well done even when i started working out i wanted to do it because i didn't like my body image but i still asked family members if they notice i lost weight even though the scales said though and i hate when i do it i hate when i do something in hope of people complimenting me over it or making me feel good about it and i want to stop but don't know how exactly.

Edit: all interesting suggestions i'll give them a try