How do u act or keep a normal conversation in a group setting?

vinsheloo · 2018-08-24T23:41:37+00:00

Good question.

Most importantly you shouldn’t let it become a group in the first place. If you planned a date with her, keep it 1 on 1. If she invites others behind your back, act cool, but make sure to let her know you don’t appreciate that kind of behavior.

As for dealing with a group, it comes with experience like everything else in life. A few pointers that I could think of;

Introduce yourself to everyone, make sure they remember your name and you theirs.
Actually listen to the conversation. Ask how they know your date. Take control early and keep the flow in your hands.
If there are moments you have nothing to say, don’t act nervous and look away/at your phone. Keep eye contact with people you agree with and nod, they might end up asking you something.

And if the girl actually disrespected you and invited the group without you knowing, just flirt with her female friends. You have to be reasonable though, don’t come off as butthurt or anything. If the group dislikes you, just part ways early and don’t be a dick.

vinsheloo · 2018-08-25T00:43:35+00:00

That's tough. Everyone struggles with it. Learn from your mistake here. Even if you're nervous, sweating and you say all the wrong things it's better to make weak bonds with people than to clam up and say nothing at all. You will do better next time. You have to find common ways to relate to a variety of people, so work on that.

What type of things were these people discussing that you couldn't find an entry point into the conversation?

jizzonmypants · 2018-08-25T03:17:26+00:00

If its her grup of friends, win over the friends because if you just focus in the girl they will be really protective towards you and her fucking if they don’t know you.

Just talk about any topic with the group, but keep more attention to the girl you go for so the group and the girl know that’s not only a friendly chat.

You can do this with things like talking to the group but hugging the girl, make the group laugh but seat really close to the girl, you get the idea.

Remember girls don’t want to be seen like a slut in front of her close friends so at one point you gotta isolate her or plan some bullshyt for her to not feel like a slut

TrusttheMagic743 · 2018-08-25T03:37:32+00:00

Your fear is taking over you. What makes you afraid? One solution is accepting the worst outcome. Even being happy if that happens. For example, you're scared that you are going to say something stupid. Your date and everyone else is going to laugh at you and think of you lower than you think of yourself. You've just been brought down a notch. This is still salvageable with the group and your date if you just chalk it up to social anxiety. Tell them you were nervous and didn't know what to say. Everyone will understand this, especially in todays age. Obviously not ideal, but this is reality. Now you know where you are at and what to work on. You can build from this by putting yourself in this situation again and doing better until your fear is gone.

If your worst fear is fucking up and everyone laughing at you, then accepting this and knowing you can build from it gives you the ability to not give a fuck. Who cares if you fuck up cause you'll just learn from it and do better.

OfficerWade · 2018-08-25T00:50:31+00:00

Keep the pressure on others, get the win.

Title	How do u act or keep a normal conversation in a group setting?
Author	vinsheloo
Upvotes	9
Comments	8
Date	August 24, 2018 9:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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