As a 20 y/o guy with not a lot of experience, I find that when I go after women that when I fuck it up I feel the most immense sense of shame and guilt. How does a guy, as a newbie, manage to practice stuff like assertiveness and kino etc. without getting creepy and rapey? I feel like it's a bit of a catch 22, i.e. you can't get the tone right without practice, but you need practice to get the tone right.