How to be happy with yourself?

Fictitiousfallacy · 2016-11-19T18:14:53+00:00

I just got out of a similar situation brother. What you need to understand is, it is a vice to think that you NEED female attention and validation to be happy. Ask yourself, besides sex (which on a long enough timeline becomes occasional at most) why do you chase them? Does that actually make you legitimately happy, or is it just what you've been taught and shown to do?

In my opinion you should start trying to achieve some personal goals that you may have always had, separate from the opposite sex. Think about personal goals! I think that you'll find when you start focusing on reaching your goals or making new ones, and you really start improving yourself as a person, you're going to learn that you really like that person and that you're happy with who you are!

When we tie our happiness and our livelihood to people, especially women who would cheat on us simply because they have the opportunity, you almost always set yourself up for disappointment. Don't give them the power, tie your happiness to yourself and your personal success and achievements.

You've got support man! Come here when you need to vent, don't let a bad person like your ex bring you down and destroy your happiness.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-11-19T22:56:01+00:00

You'll be happy again, but you'll realize "happiness" is like any other emotion, it comes and goes. I can advise you that the more you let your happiness hinge on others, the unhappier you will be. Make your happiness be about you, your mentality, your decisions and behavior. Take responsibility for yourself and your perspective might slowly change from "how will I attain happiness?" to "I have X goal to reach in Y time and I can soak up small amounts of happiness/satisfaction/success along the way." Taking responsibility shifts your perspective more toward actions, rather than the emotions that follow them. This has implications in discipline, procrastination, anxiety, depression, etc. that you could change for the better by changing your mentality and your habits a little bit each day.

Realize that at the moment you're 1. down in the dumps cause you're getting over her, and 2. down in the dumps cause you're realizing how the world actually works and de-conditioning yourself from the fairy-tale narrative society raised you with by consuming RP material. Don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to get over her.

Make some solid friends to enjoy doing stuff with. We're social creatures. Get into the mentality that nothing comes freely and you have to work for everything you want to gain: friends, muscle, money, respect, value, freedom, etc. In order to work for these things you want and reach the goals you set, you need the basics: a strong, healthy body and mind to take on the journey. So eat, sleep, and exercise well--you can focus on that now and make it a goal to change your habits for the better. As for the rest, just work hard and take it one day at a time. Find interesting hobbies. Read books. After a while you'll notice the girls will come and go, and you'll be sticking to your routines and just living life.

[deleted] · 2016-11-19T16:58:20+00:00

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Title	How to be happy with yourself?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	November 19, 2016 4:14 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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