How to crush insecurities?

Wabbajak · 2019-01-18T16:42:12+00:00

Accept what you cannot control and don't wish for anything outside of your control to be anything other than it is.

"My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it."

-Friedrich Nietzsche

Embrace your insecurities and wear them like a champ. Chances are you're not even that ugly.

If you still think you are ugly, get opinions from strangers in subreddits like amiugly, amisexy, rateme or truerateme.

redhawkes · 2019-01-18T16:50:48+00:00

Own it.

It's a classic negative self limiting belief loop. "Ugly" nose > ugly behavior > habit. Rinse, repeat. Look up for RAS (reticular activating system), you'll understand how it works.

It's not your nose, it's your imagination about your nose that holds you down.

If it's really that bad (doubt it) like dislocated cartilages, fucked up septum or grotesque hump, get a rhinoplasty.

If you're afraid/anxious about something, do exactly that - face it. You'll soon realize that it's all in your head. Get jacked af and stop thinking that your nose is holding you down, then reconsider surgery. It's your behavior that fucks you up.

buttgoogler · 2019-01-18T19:15:45+00:00

Here's an amazing comment by /u/chazthundergut, it might help you.

My brother is a bald ginger with a giant beak nose that has been broken several times. He is 5'10''. He is fit because of his lifestyle, but he has never done weightlifting. He never goes to clubs and hates drugs/ alcohol. You wouldnt believe the pussy he gets. He has two main things going for him: Naturally extremely dominant. He takes no shit, speaks his mind bluntly, and never backs down from a conflict. He is almost too aggressive. In social situations, he is a natural leader and automatically assumes command He lives an awesome lifestyle. Since he was a teen he's been rock climbing, surfing, snowboarding, backpacking, biking, etc. He is always planning exciting trips, and this seems to attract hotties. It really is paradigm bending. Sometimes I will join him on one of his adventures. In the morning I'll watch him emerge from his tent, this bald beak-nosed ginger with a head like a fucking canoe. And stumbling after him is a gorgeous blonde chick. The educated hippie type, who still looks stunning after three days of hiking. And she goes to make him breakfast and coffee while he looks over his maps. I've seen it happen so many times. My brother does some rafting trip and someone brings a couple girls they are trying to impress. And then they meet my brother and it's like game over for them. A lot of these chicks even give up smoking weed or alcohol just to be with him. So yes, ugly guys can definitely be attractive. But they must be masculine

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-18T20:46:50+00:00

Large nose man here. Own it... I have a large broken roman nose and it gives me character.

Some girls want a pretty boy with effeminate features. But lift build muscle in your face or put weight on, your nose won’t look as big but more masculine.

modimian · 2019-01-18T16:45:20+00:00

Lots of ladies men here are short balding or somewhat ugly . Everyone has at least 1 flaw. Luckily for us women want a full package not just our looks . Insecurities alone will lower your attractiveness even more . Improve other areas . Also no matter how shit your face is with proper clothes it will get fixed . Unless you are horribly ugly which I doubt . I rarely see those cases

17Loco · 2019-01-18T17:20:27+00:00

Tested mater:

If you get chronic thoughts thoughts (ie your nose), stop and count to ten in your mind. It might sound silly but in the long run it will rework your brain

Or see a therapist

jordysays · 2019-01-18T18:17:35+00:00

as someone with a very large nose, just own it overtime you get a little self conscious just say fuck it and grow a sack you have other things to offer much greater. Something you can't control is a waste of time. A lot of women think large noses are masculine especially if you own it. with everyone getting plastic surgery these days being comfortable with a so called flaw is attractive to a lot of people. Sincerely,

Fellow large nose guy

Title	How to crush insecurities?
Author	Umcode
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Date	January 18, 2019 4:34 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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