This will be a shit ton of text. I'm 22 and my GF just turned 21. We've know each other for around 4-5 years (since HS) and she's always had a thing for me. Back then and until the beginning of our relationship ( a little over a year) I treated her like complete shit, And didn't care about her at all etc. What's funny is during the time I treated her like shit, She just seemed to "love" me more and try to get me even more. It went on like that for a while and we got serious/exclusive for a while without actually "dating." Eventually, I asked her out and decided to give her a chance, and treat her "right" during the relationship.

In the beginning, Everything was great and we didn't have many problems. I was still kind of an ass to her and she put up with it the same as before. I started actually really liking her and ever since then i basically went into beta mode. I'd try my hardest to treat her right make her happy give her gifts all of that, and in return the relationship has gone to shit. I started this about 4-5 months ago and ever since then the relationship has been on a downhill slant ever since.

She is no longer showing interest in texting me, no longer flirty, sexting, sending nudes all like she used to do. Our convos are so dry i can repeat the same shit we say day in and day out like hi good morning what's up how's work etc and with dry answers. The weird thing is, she's only like that over text. When I see her in person (almost every day) she acts normal, fun to be around, ALMOST how she used to act. She acts like a best friend (yeah this sounds terrible) but it's true. She rarely ever initiates sex anymore, holding hands all of that. It's fun to hang with her but i'm starting to feel like her best friend instead of boyfriend.

Not to mention, About 2-3 times during our relationship (when things were in the shitter) she would randomly break up with me or ask for a break. I wouldn't beg for her back anything like that, Id say okay and just not answer. Within a few hours or the next day i'd get a text from her saying i'm so sorry i love you blah blah and then she'd ask to get back together.

This is why i'm in such a crossroad. It really is fun chilling with this girl, but I want it to be back to how it was before. Her basically looking up to me like i'm a king because i treated her like shit, she's text first, be more energetic in person and text, show more interest and initiate sex and other romantic things first.

I know from reading this sub everyone will say to move on blah blah.. But i want to use this situation to my advantage. Can i come back from this and turn my relationship into what it was before? Can i come back into power of this and be in control? How should I go about texting/ acting with her in person. I'm generally never too pushy and force sex holding hands etc or flirty on text. How do I get back to where I was?