I appreciate your helps guys, it's the first time I post here since the situation is turning uncomfortable

Basically I started lifting 3 months ago and made some incredible progress, my acne is nearly gone, my body looks good and I get some more attention from women.

The problem is my game, sometimes it can be very good but 80% of the times I'm insecure.. I don't know why this happens (just for the record, I havent got laid in a long time)

Today I managed to say something to 3 women and 1 man.

  • First one at the gym, she was using a machine and I asked to share, then commented that the temperature in the gym was quite high and made training hard (I saw her yesterday but didn't have the balls to open, instead I thought about it like an idiot between my sets)

  • This 50 years old MILF, who has been lifting for 32 years, has fake tits and looks quite awesome (competes). Talks to me after I mention the temperature with the other girl and then we continued talking for a while and even had some personal experiences sharing. I 'offered' her my life coaching services since we were talking about motivation, strategy and goals before I left and told her to get my number; she didn't have her phone on and she told me she's always at the gym and we'll see each other soon.

  • Today at the swimming pool, this HB9 chinese/spanish girl who lives next door. Had a thought to talk to her several times but I'm never confident, she goes with her brother I think. She was refusing to swim and before I left I told her not to be boring, that she's missing a lot of fun and smiled. She didn't reply, didn't care too much tbh

With the guy I had no problem

The problem that this always happens to me, I hesitate and by the time I do it I lose quality in the approach. I know I made progress but I just cannot stand fighting with my brain.. I tried approaching quick before anxiety hits but sometimes I still paralize

I would appreciate some practical advise, I hate being such a pussy