Hi guys, let's say you're hosting a party at your own place. Some friends are coming, some you've known since many years, some you just met and obviously girls.

A friend among them, let's call him Robert. Robert is confident, braging specialist (never mention his failures, really proud of himself), he has/had ok success with women, can create connection quickly, i would say fun and cocky. He's your friend since many years. Not to mention he has a girlfriend, almost engaged but cheat on her when he can.

Robert is a cool listenning dude when head to head talking, nice guy when it comes to friendship, call you and "treat" you like a brother.

Ok so the party is starting everything is cool, but Robert as usual when it comes to behavior in a group (including girls) always have the need to show that he is the man, the alpha, always try to make his value explode, does not hesitate to put you down at the lowest point. Start to brag, make fun of you in a funny way first, ok that's cool for 5 minutes. And then the tone change, bad comments on the hosting every ten minutes or so and acting like tough as he is the boss, the best in the place.

So here's my question, how would you react ? Stay calm ? hold frame ? in your own house letting your long time friend walking all over you like on a carpet, put you down in front of the girls and make fun of you openly ?

Here's how i reacted. First i took it as i would the previous years, shut my mouth, try to smile and laugh, and explode alone in my head but i did for 30 minutes. After that i didn't even react to his tries to get attention from me, and by seeing something wasn't cool he tried many times like nothing happened. And finally later when he asked if i was ok, i told him in almost head to head to look me in the eye, and that i wouldn't shoot down a friend myself and show no respect like this. He said i was acting like fucked up, that i was crazy and decided to leave the party. I followed him in the street and yelled at him to follow me for a conversation i mean a bit agressively. After a two minutes conversation he left saying he did nothing and i was mental.

What's your thoughts ? did i over react ? I have no patience for this kind of bullshit anymore. He wants to show he is a big guy and make me look like shit, i can't accept that for myself. As the hoster of the night, making great effort for this to be a good night i couldn't let him treat me like that.

After thinking about this i realized i actually don't need that guy in my life, we see each other once a month and would feel nothing if i loose him.