Throwaway for this one.

Ok, sometimes life sucks and you just gotta deal. I got herpes 5 years ago, spent the majority of my time since in ltr. Have been messing around a bit since. Experience confirmed a few things.

LTR makes life easier if you have herpes. LTR is the death of self. Dating sucks with herpes.

There seem to be a few options advocated on here:

  1. Go on antivirals, use a condom and the very small chance of spreading it means you don't have to tell.
  2. Use herpes dating site.
  3. Build up enough value to be able to tell them and they will get over it or they won't.

My thoughts:

  1. No thanks, esp won't work for plate or LTR, they will figure it out eventually and possibly kill you.
  2. Done, worked, very limited pool.
  3. Ok, I can handle that. Maybe. Which bring me to the question:

When I think of the 10 women I've been with, 6 had had sex with me in the first date, 3 on second date, 1 was first GF in hs. I'm tall, attractive and sexually aggressive. I've had problems in the past with loosing momentum in a date/relationship and know how easy it is to make that mistake.

So how do you slow things down, get more emotional investment, stay sexually interesting and not come across as weak/ cowardly beta?

I've read a lot on here, and have plenty of experience to know how easily shit falls apart. For example, you get a little beta, she sees BB, and maybe, just maybe, you end up in a relationship and having sex. But having fucked like Chad with some and fucked like BB with others, I know I want to stay in alpha frame.

And please, save your bullshit shaming for someone else. Every time you stick it in any girl, no matter how high value/innocent she is, you are rolling the die. Condoms don't take that risk away. I'm 30, I'm not hanging up the towel. Try and say something worth 10,000 men's time.