Imperium Romanum

Original post here.

Thank you everyone for your helpful advice and comments. My post didn't get that much attention but I wanted to update for those finding themselves in a similar situation.

I spent the next day after our fight formulating the words to say to my boyfriend when he got home from work. I wanted our conversation to be as constructive and non confrontational as possible. I explained calmly and rationally how his phone use makes me feel. Infact, I had to explain four or five times because each time he said he didn't understand why him being on his phone so much was an issue. But, I stayed calm and rational and tried to be patient with him. It paid off and we agreed that he wouldn't use his phone unless necessary when we spend time together. He also reassured me that him being on his phone doesn't mean that he doesn't want to spend time with me, and he loves me and isn't bored of me. (Thanks, anxious brain)

We've been engaging in a lot more conversation during our Netflix binges now that I don't feel like I'm interrupting his phone use. And now that he isn't distracted by his phone all the time he initiates conversation about what we're watching. We've spent some time together with my son the last couple of days, and he's been incredibly conscious of his phone use, which I thanked him for, and told him I feel like we really spent some quality time together where he was always 'present'. We're now madly in love again and if the phone thing becomes a problem again, I know I can speak up about it.

TL;DR just talk to your partner, and if you have anxiety - nothing is ever as bad as it seems in your head