Hello fellow rpers sorry for the long wall not as sober as I’d like writing this right now

I was single and on a good path to trp until about 6 months ago when I made the mistake of getting into monogamy with this one special unicorn. She’s pretty great sure but I was on a path of self work and got distracted and now we live together and it’s like having a roommate who you fight with a lot and have sex with ... for now

and now the more time together the more I feel maybe we are not as compatible as I’d hoped esp to be spending so much time with. Alot of this is my fault of course.

6 months ago she started as a plate out of maybe 4-5 I had on rotation. I should’ve kept it at that but also I thought I saw qualities in her that would make a good ltr and I also found the game a bit tiring. I guess I caved.

At one point we were “long distance” and I went to visit her and while there idiotically made the suggestion that she could come stay with me. I even helped her get started with her first job freelancing. She quit her dead end job after the first day and agreed to move here, but made it clear that she would much prefer if we went to her home country as the end goal. If I’m honest I entertained the idea and still do.

now that she moved in with me various problems start surfacing. I won’t go into them here because it’ll be another essay of its own but we started fighting more, and worse I feel it’s really affected my self development and growth and my focus. I have a much harder time getting into the right head space or if I’m working she may interrupt me, I e had talks to her about it and they have reduced but I am craving alone time and also feel drained

just recently, I’ve subtly suggested that she should consider flying back when her visa is up in a week or so. She got quite upset about this of course, especially because her visa is extendable by another month but I didn’t even suggest it. I honestly think it would be unhealthy to do another month of this for both of us.

But obviously she’s upset and was crying and said I lied, made me feel she uprooted her life to be with me. I take responsibility for my faults but right now I just want to reverse this living together arrangement with the least drama possible. Not always possible but I’d like to strive and keep an amicable relationship.

Hoping for some solid advice / suggestions on how to proceed here. What should I do?

Any advice or suggestions appreciated!