Looking for clarification. Did I handle this right?

[deleted] · 2018-11-02T15:12:40+00:00

Don’t justify dude, you don’t owe her shit. If anything I would’ve said “bet” or a thumbs-up after the first text and left it at that. Sign of abundance; if she won’t do it, get in the mindset that there are millions of other girls desperate to do the same thing with you she’s allegedly so scared of suddenly.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-11-02T15:22:42+00:00

texting is for logistics only.

You violated that rule, but then you gave her so much time to think about it that her anti slut defense kicked in.

Why didn't you close with her at the end of the sexting, when she was as wet as a swamp? She'd have come over then.

SirKolbath · 2018-11-02T16:23:59+00:00

Ignore what they say, pay attention only to what they do.

I’d have ignored that text and responded about four hours later with something completely tangential to the conversation. Her submissiveness will reawaken when you get a solid grip on her hair. That is difficult to do over text.

Ricklogical · 2018-11-02T15:28:15+00:00

I would just tell her the domination isn't important, the chemistry between you is and whatever happens later you can decide together.

You rushed ahead to something hot and sexy. Tell her it was fun but there is no rush. She can go on the rack next month but only if she behaves.

But in all seriousness you should inform her it's perfectly natural to push back after having an experience with that. Tell her as strangers there is no way you would enjoy compromising her in ways she would not accept.

Domination is a serious contract and as a submissive she should know there is a ton of communication and hopefully paperwork that comes before any serious scenes are acted out.

It also takes work, and since she's just a new potential plate, you tell her to relax and that you aren't worried about any of what happens until you get to know each other better. Set up a date and promise to leave the handcuffs at home.

BatmanVsThanos · 2018-11-02T15:10:45+00:00

Ghost this mentally diseased skank

Saberinbed · 2018-11-02T16:23:27+00:00

Girls are in the moment creatures. She was probably feeling it in the moment, and the next day maybe she felt like a slut. Maybe another dude hit her up and she wanted to go with him. Its always a mystery, but you just need to literally be unfazed by these things and move on. All you should’ve said was “alright all good”,’ or if you’re hard nexting just say “okay”. It sometimes make you look butthurt, so try to word it out depending on how you think the girl will take it.

If it makes you feel any better, what you said wouldn’t have magically made her want to come back to you. If she really liked you, she wouldn’t make it so difficult, and would’ve kept texting you back.

GrimTRP · 2018-11-03T00:46:17+00:00

You gave her a reason not to fuck you. Should of set up logistics as soon as the sexting started. "Her: I don't think this is going to work out. You have this idea that I will just submit to you and I don't do that for anyone." This was a shit test that you failed. Should of said something along the lines of "Good thing I'm better then everyone" or "I'm not just anyone". At this point in time texting her back will yield no results. If she texts you again, she wants the D. Set up logistics immediately and be super Dom Irl.

Title	Looking for clarification. Did I handle this right?
Author	TRPTyrone
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	November 2, 2018 3:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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