I've previously been emotionally stoic, with frame built like a brick shithouse but since the pandemic started, I moved in with my girlfriend and I've started to become a sissy. I lean on my girlfriend far too much and it's not good.

A lot has happened over the last few months, I lost my job due to COVID and have had a hard time getting a new one. The lack of job is the primary issue for me, it's wrecking havoc with my mental state as I'm constantly the number 2 candidate, always falling at the last hurdle and I've noticed that over the past couple of months I've been becoming more emotional and unable to control my emotions which isn't good. It's especially not good as it's happening in-front of my girlfriend and it has happened in-front of her female friends as well (while very drunk).

Essentially, I need to reboot my mental state to become emotionally stoic again. I'm going to the gym and running every other day. I'm keeping active with my studies and job applications. I'm also cooking a lot and catching up with my few remaining friends (long story, lost a lot after my previous relationship). Positive things basically.

My issue is, how do I become emotional stoic and sustain frame again?

I used to be quite RP'd but then the pandemic has come in, lockdown and everything has ruined my mental state, turning me into a simp and I'm trying to figure out the way out so that I can be the man and not constantly coming across as pansy to the missus (and other girls).

I've got the following books that I'm hoping will help me reboot my mental state:

  1. Mindful Attraction Plan
  2. No More Mr Nice Guy
  3. The Rational Male
  4. The Rational Male: Preventative Medicine

Is there anything else I should look at doing to help me reset and become emotionally stoic once more?

Thanks!