Basically I am away for 14 days for the first time since we began our relationship 4 months ago. Frame seems good, told her in a calm voice to "eat a dick" a few times to disperse the anger, but nothing more.

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Now when we started, the bitch was really into me. She was smoking, but I had a thing against LTRing smokers - both of my parents smoked, grew up in smoke basically, can't stand it, and it disguists me. Told her if she want's to become LTR, she has to drop smoking, and she has agreed to that ( wanted to quit on her own anyways, wasn't smoking for a month before she met me, then the cravings kicked in ).

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Today, Valentines day, we are talking over the phone ( coming home in 3 days ) and she starts creating drama like chicks do. I just calmly excuse myself and tell her I have work to do tell, her goodbye, hang up. Later she sends me a picture of a pack of cigars and says "I'm gonna start smoking", and I don't reply. She then later calls me, apologizes for the drama and asks whether I am mad, because she smoked a cigar. Told her "I'll call you, don't call me" and hanged up. How do I enforce the boundary I set up without overreacting?

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TL;DR We agreed she can't smoke, basically the only rule apart from "don't cheat and don't drink with guys around" i set up. She did. Wat do?