Repost/Cleaned up version of one of my previous threads

Background:

I've grown up being pretty sheltered and have had to learn most things on my own. I've never had "the talk" or anything and was basically just told that sex is bad before marriage and I would regret it if I ever decided to aka would be punished severly. They even went so far as to try and pull me out of freshman health class as they thought it would corrupt my mind, but I refused to take the class privately because I thought I would get made fun of. My parents are highly moral so to speak and instilled in me from a young age that it was my job to protect, uplift, and care for women (basically serve women's agenda/being a "gentleman") and if I did that I would be successful in life and everything would work out.

Fast forward through life and I'm now just finishing up my freshman year of college. Despite being sheltered, I've never had a problem with being social, and a lot of girls have had crushes on me throughout high school and this first year of college (Apparently I'm somewhat attractive or at least that's what I've been told). I've dated a few girls (never went past third base) but I lost my virginity to a girl half a year ago. ( hormones finally got the best of me and said fuck it to the whole morals thing as they haven't gotten me anywhere anyway). Furthering on that point, the girl that I slept with became my oneitis and I became the best gentleman I could be to win her over. We were never a couple, but I wanted her exclusively as she was dating another guy. Eventually, my clinginess and her lies caused a massive fight between us to which we ceased all contact. For weeks I questioned what I did wrong and dwelled on how I had messed up until I came to the realization that I must being doing something wrong, being a gentleman had gotten me nothing but pain and sadness, thus I found TRP and have been awoken to what is reality.

I've been lurking on the forum on and off for around two months now, and have had no problem swallowing the pill as it was pretty easy for me to believe seeing it IRL and the fact that everything I had been taught failed. Since my discovery of TRP, I've been going to the gym, learning new hobbies, etc. I have the physical aspect of everything down but I'm struggling with implementing the mental ones.

Questions:

I've realized that confidence is a major concept in becoming an alpha. Most people often see me as overconfident and borderline arrogant but if I'm being honest that is more of a defense mechanism than it is true confidence. How can I gain real confidence?

I feel bad if I begin to get close with a woman if I know all I want from her is sex. How can I get over that?

7's and below, I've never had an issue with talking to bc I have no sexual interest in. However anything above that I tend to get nervous around. Only way to overcome that through trial and error?

Whenever I'm talking with a girl that I'm interested in, i forget about things like frame and shit tests and go back to my pre-enlightened state where I just mindlessly talk with no direction. How can I train myself to consciously utilize the material from TRP in those situations?

In general, what do I need to do to bring myself to being that Alpha that is the best of the best?

How do you deal with other guys that are trying to rain on your parade so to speak?

How do you become the Alpha of a group of guys?