I'm 18, newish to trp, always been pretty confident and attractive, but I have mild aspergers and so I had to try really hard to teach myself how to be sociable when I was young. If you met me now you'd never guess I had my condition. Thanks to trp I see dating now the same way I used to see socializing when I was a child, a skill that I know with practice I can become better at.

Texting this 23 year old who works at a book store, the reason I got her number in the first place is because her co-worker (a man) told me she thought I was cute. It's actually going pretty smoothly except for one thing.

She doesn't want to get off her lazy ass and meet me outside of work. Some things you should know are that, I only said a few sentences to her in person, I handed her coworker a note with my number on it and she texted me later that day. I know she is interested, but she wants me to come into her frame, i.e. her work, probably because she wants to get a better feel for my personality before she puts in any effort into me. After all, in those few sentences I seemed kinda alpha, and I am attractive, but I'm fairly skinny, and it's possible that it was just a fluke of our interaction, why would she risk more than a 30 minute lunch date?

So here is my idea, I agree to go. And then I flake, something girls don't normally expect, from their dates, and it arouse her interest enough to come into my frame and meet me somewhere else (preferably her house).

Right now I'm ignoring her for a few days, because I'm worried that every text I send without closing a meetup is slowly pulling me into her frame and I want to reset that. I would like some advice from more experienced red pillers.