So i knew of the red pill a few years back and didn't think much of it but gave it shot while in college and was getting seeing a lot of women, having a good time, and non thinking about being in a serious relationship. Went a girl during the end of my junior year, and it was casual. She started to get more serious thatn I was and I sort of pulled back. She wanted it more than I did, and so she started pursuing me more and more, and it started to seem like clingy behavior. She eventually 'gave up' and that made me want to be with her but I felt as if I messed up in some sort of way, letting my emotions get the better of me. She got back her ex and then started to move on with life but was still a bit hung up on her.

Fast forward to the end of my senior year. I was still hung up on previous girl and getting sex where I could to get her off my mind. Met this girl who was a soophemore, thought she was hot and started pursuing her (while also pursuing two other girls). At first, it was casual and then slowly became more and more serious.

Been dating this girl for about 10-11 months now. When we first started seeing each other, I was only really in it because 1) she was very attractive and I wanted the sex and 2) I was getting over an ex. During the first few months (summer) I was non-schelaunt in our interactions, mentally and physically and didn't think too much about actually being in a relationship with her. At this point, she pursued me more because I wasn't super into, just like the previous girl, and things were going great. Lots of sex and all of it was casual and fun. As time went on though, I feel as if I started losing control / dominance over the relationship. Things also started become more and more serious. I have met her parents, brother, and extended family; gone on their family vacations with them multiple times; etc.

At the same time, school started back up for her and i started working. I was still wanting to have sex and what not on the weekends or after work which went on for a while but school, her family, and hobbies all gradually and progressively seemed to seem like more of a priority, once again, understable.

To this though, I tried to hang out with her more and more and do more things for her. Retrospectively, I was becoming more and more clingy. I had / have feelings for this girl unlike others in the past and have been thinking that she may 'be the one' because to me she seemed sexy, smart, motivated, and not that crazy. The feelings were mutual until she started pulling away when I wanted to do more stuff with her.

Fast forward to the present, we have been talking about maybe breaking things off. Not that I would like to but because she feels like I have been asking too much of her and I feel like I have been too much for her and that we have not been having sex as much as we use to.

Last week we went on a break to think things over for a few days independently (no communication between other) and she ended up texting and wanted to meet (2 days before we were suppose to talk) and said "sorry I have been acting all crazy. (she gets really stressed out by school and a lot of times school gets stressful its associated with our relationship) I dont know what came over me. I want to stay together but some things need to change." To which I agreed, and I explained how we both need to be more independent, more me than her though. So I have since been much more hands off, so to speak, and make sure she is the one to text me first and what not.

Meet up with her today to help her review a paper she wrote for class and afterwards we got into a discussion and she started crying a bunch on how she doesn't know if she wants to be in a relationship and has from the start (once again this is the craziest week of school she has had yet). I stated that if she happy with me, I don't want to be in a relationship. Moreover, that i am unsatisfied sexually and that I have was being clingy and I going to start focusing more on myself.

She will be leaving for an internship in about 5 weeks and will be gone for 10 weeks. We decided that we will decide to break up (she said just be friends, to which I said I probably can't do) the week before she goes. If things get better then we will stay together, but I explained to her that a lot of times when she gets all stressed out and I ask anything of her (to hang out or whatever) then I come off as being clingy and that everytime she is really stressed with school she starts second guessing being in a relationship in general.

Right now, I am trying to be pretty hands off and am not texting her unless she texts or calls me. Might send her a snapchat or whatever if I am doing something fun with friends but that is the most of it. Once school ends she will def have more freetime, and everything is well and good during those times.

Anyways, sorry for the long post but I was wondering what you guys think is the next step here?

Should we go on a break while she is gone and maybe try seeing other women but keep in contact with her?

Break up with her and try moving on?

Give it time, leave her alone, and she if she comes back?

Thanks guys