x-post from sosuave where I first read some threads on this general topic (i.e. dates being cancelled)

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Seen this girl 5 times now, things have been steadily ascending since the first date but nothing crazy. She lives kind of far away, and works every other weekend, but to me that's been pretty good in regulating the intervals of hanging out. Only contact with her is when I see her, or texting for logistics. Last sunday, she did text me (first random initiation by her) randomly just to say hi, which I turned into a convo about logistics for the next hangout and that was that. We hang out Wednesday, it's fine, we casually make plans to see e/o Saturday. Nothing specific, just like hey let's hang out Saturday.

She worked Thursday. On Friday afternoon as I was literally texting her to make plans for Sat, she texted me saying she got sick from work and can't hang out this weekend, with no reschedule. Unfortunately the old beta still lives somewhat in me so I replied with ah that sucks (which is fine imo) but then I offered to bring her food, which she declined due to "not being able to keep food down" (yea, ready for the criticism on that one), to which I replied "hope you feel better" and that was that. I'm not going to do the ******* thing, the curt short replies. Just not my persona. A bit more context - she's 10 years younger, but she's not from around here, doesn't have many friends, no family in the area, and very shy. It seems to me like she's pretty relationship-inexperienced. So if it was just a normal chick from the area, I would definitely lean hard towards, she just lost interest suddenly, it happens. But the fact that she's shy, not from around her, relationship-inexperienced (maybe) makes me think, although I realize that could be me just justifying false hopes.

Thoughts? My intent is to just let it be, for a few days, and then text "how you feeling". Sosuave's immediate responses were did you f*ck her yet. To which my reply is no, I haven't pushed it there yet. Thing is, I believe in TRP but I prescribe to it to help me actual dating relationships and not just gaming. This is a girl I thought I could potentially like so I'm taking it seriously, treating it with the right levels of respect but also keeping TRP principles in mind. And I haven't pushed it because like I said, she's shy and I have a hunch she's sexually/relationship inexperienced. I've never dated someone shy like this so it's been hard to read.

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Insights/advice appreciated!