No More Mr Nice Guy Activities support

4thepill · 2016-07-17T04:35:14+00:00

I think you got it in the last paragraph. If you do something, do it, don't just half ass it like a flaccid dick.

It's good you realized your not a special flower, but don't think negatively. Take that shit, and know that's it's something to improve upon.

Take the pill with a grain of salt, but ultimately work toward who you want to be as a person, and as a professional (lock that shit down). Get good grades, party hard, and most importantly have fun, not because you want others to see that your having fun, but because you want to have fun.

You post strikes a chord with me because I was/ am in a similar situation. Never did I think I was special, but I always new I could be. Never did I tell myself I'm attractive (although others have). Most importantly I used to have a small group of good friends, but I graduated and we live all over the country now. Sometime I feel like a loner, but I remember, it's all up to me. I go out and I talk to people now, just to say something (it makes you feel alive). When I stay inside, all reclusive, that's when negative thoughts happen. Don't depend on anyone, but yourself, focus on yourself and you needs and desires and the rest will come.

But most importantly, as it was in my case, just talk to people. Say anything even if it's as simple as "hi" (although I never have started a conversation with someone I didn't know before with "hi"), the point is just do it for the hell of it, and fuck the haters (I can almost guarantee you there won't be many).

Will_Die_Trying · 2016-07-17T09:55:57+00:00

Tough love time.

You have identified your problems. Now do the fuck something about them. A wise man once told me "fix you problems, and they wont be problems anymore." Quite true. You need to practice what you want to become. Part 2?

The same wise man once told me "If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to get it." So, you have identified your shortcomings in what is limiting your idea of your potential - now you must identify how hard you want to work to fix yourself. Rather, how much work you are willing to further reach your potential. Do you actually want to put the work in. From where I am standing, the rest of my life is an uphill climb I'm so low. Maybe it wont always be, but the life I want seems so damn far away it's essentially impossible. But read my handle on here, and you get my drift.

So, I advise you to do what I do. Look at what you HAVE accomplished. I have lost a 120lbs. I am going back to school. I have a bit of a mission for myself, both existentially and career wise. I just had a chick drive 1.5 hrs at two in the morning to sleep with me(she wasn't much, mind you...). On my bad days, I am sapped. On my good days, I am fucking unstoppable. Progress, not perfection.

Thirdly, you may be starting from the wrong position. I can't gleam enough from your post, but introspect to the point where the things you are doing, the things you want to accomplish, you actually WANT to do - rather than arbitrarily learning a language and "getting such and such job or sleeping with such and such number/caliber/particular women/woman". Not saying you did this, but arbitrarily picking goals for me is no better than sticking my cock in a dish a sauerkraut. I just end up asking myself what the fuck am I doing. Perhaps introspect more to find out if your goals are REALLY ACTUALLY what you want.

Best of life to ya Rpthrowo.

demoneyes905 · 2016-07-17T16:04:53+00:00

Two words: Action and Momentum.

You need to get moving and the initial action will always be the hardest but establish a routine.

Create one large overarching goal and then create bite sized milestones to hit the larger goal. Every day you work towards it. Every day you keep the goal in mind and do it. No excuses. No bullshit. Just results. In the end, all you do if you fail due to laziness is cheat yourself of your dreams.

Working on the habit everyday solidifies it in your mind and gains momentum. Soon enough, whatever goal it is (whether learning a new language or working out) becomes a goal with weight. You will have a months long streak going and won't want to break it.

One last thing. Fuck all other distractions. Your friends or coworkers distracting you from your goals? They keep inviting you things that hinders your progress? SAY NO. In a few months, your discipline would bear fruit while those people will be stuck in the same rut as they have been for a while now. You have no idea how many people try to get you to break your habit "just once". For the first few weeks until the habits are cemented in your mind, make no excuses and take no breaks.

In the end, your goals almost always take priority. No one else's.

Good luck brother.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-17T23:49:34+00:00

If you liked 'the gervais principle' check out vinkatesh rao. he has the 'be sleightly evil', and 'tempo' books, and they are great to help you understand why you make the decisions you do, and how to create better ones. It's a dense read, but if you have the patience, it's worth it.

As for the goal, looking forward to hearing about your successes.

Title	No More Mr Nice Guy Activities support
Author	Rpthrowo
Upvotes	10
Comments	5
Date	July 17, 2016 3:35 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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