How do you actually achieve this?

I set up 2 first dates with tinder girls for Saturday, and 2 first dates for Sunday with the idea that if one flakes each day I'll have a back-up. That went to shit, as all 4 of them flaked on me. 2 due to bad weather, 1 due to having to help her grandfather and 1 felt sick. Maybe they're genuine reasons, or maybe they're complete bullshit.

Nevertheless, I feel pretty frustrated, and am struggling with being outcome independent. I guess saying it is one thing, but achieving it is way harder. Any advice? How can I achieve abundance when I'm trying to build an abundance, yet this happens?