Pursuing self improvement without developing egotistical traits?

vandaalen · 2020-08-03T11:20:04+00:00

Motivation is for losers. Winners rely on discipline.

Where is the problem with being egoistic? If you think long enough about you'll find out that you are completely driven by egoistic reasons. Even the things you do for others or feel for others can ultimately be tracked down to some personal agenda.

Egoism not bad per sé. It becomes bad if it constantly makes you create win-loose or even loose-loose situations.

In order to help others, you first need to be in a position of abundance first.

Let aside that the sole fact that you are existing, does not mean that you owe shit to anyone. In the same way nobody owns shit to you, besides your parents, who owe you to bring you up until you can take care of yourself.

AloofusMaximus · 2020-08-03T12:40:30+00:00

The way I see discipline and motivation... Motivation I think a lot of people struggle with, because most people want to take the path of least resistance. If you look at super high achievers they can often have almost inhuman motivation, they're really the outliers though. Hell I've struggled with motivation more than anything else, I've adopted the "just jump in" approach. Where even if I don't feel like doing something, I start doing it anyway. Basically I will myself to take that first step, and then motivation comes after. This take something of a conscious approach to deciding what's actually important (doing X thing is better than watching YouTube for 2 hours).

As far as improvement, well I believe in lifelong learning and growth. I don't have an endpoint or final goal for self improvement, it's an ongoing process. Even if it's incremental, I want to my future self to be better than my present self.

Discipline you can learn. I get a workout in, even on nights where I'm exhausted and get home late. Even when I might not be feeling it right away, I know I'll feel better once I start. Still I have off days, but I'd say I'm probably 90%+ on.

I've actually found I have much LESS of an ego since I've started doing all of this. Mostly it's because I'm more concerned with living the best life I can, on my terms. I also don't compare myself to other people (which I think is why it helps with ego). I'm my own bar for success.

Title	Pursuing self improvement without developing egotistical traits?
Author	itsvyktbaby
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	August 3, 2020 10:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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