Met her 3 weeks ago, and she is a year younger than me (early twenties)

(1 weekend) Had multiple IOI, escalated, went for the kiss, ended up at my place... she was on her period, so she gave me a bj.

(2 weekend) I didn't text her much during the week (actually only once) she had friends coming over from another town, so she invited me out with them.

She doesn't really texts me, so I do the same and go silent for 4 days. After 4 days I call her. Talk about her upcoming birthday if she has any plans (brief conv about plans). She invites me to celebrate her birthday.

(3 week)

Birthday....so we met again (didn't get her something). Payed for her drinks (first time i did that). We went clubbing afterwards. Most of her friends left, she was tired and wanted to go home. We ended up at my place. I initiated and then she told me that she was on a (new)? pill which fucked up her circle. I did not really comment.... she apologized and gave me a bj.

After a while we had the talk .

She asked me where this thing is going, what are we n etc.

I tried to evade the questions by exaggerating and asking her back...she insisted on a clear answer.

I told her it's too early to say and that we will find out. I asked her back: what do you think? (was that a mistake?)

She said she is really into me and that she wants us to just fuck.

I teased her that she d be jealous if I started hanging out with other girls, to which she replied that she is ok with it.

In the end I told her that I don't really like sharing my things and ended the conv. (I know...it's just my turn)

Bear in mind that in the past I got asked the same question by a girlfriend of hers

-So what are your intentions with "insert her name" -Why do you care? -I am like her mom -A marriage 4 kids and a dog -"chuckles" ok you pass

Whenever girls asked me such questions in the past (happened 2 times) it was because the girl was really interested. (true or false ?)

Here's what really messes up with me. I am in a phase of my life where I pursue a relationship, I am fed up with just hanging out once a week with plates for sex. To be honest i really want something stable right now. I don't know if I am developing oneitis but I was thinking about having a relationship even before I met her. It could be both. I really like hanging out with her and don't wanna end up doing the same thing I did for the past 3 years (meeting once or twice a week with a plate, have sex and that's it). The problem is that she never initiates a conversation, she never checks-in so to say. The only thing she did once was to reply to an insta story and text me about logistics f.e : (I will let you know on Friday) and she texts me only on Friday ... she also always says this shitline which gives me mixed thoughts.

I don't wanna come off as needy, I do the same thing. I never check in on her, I take my time to reply and generally try to have abundance mentality. Is there any way to pursue a relationship out of this ? Or should i just suck it up and move on with it. Do you think things might change after sex? Do I go radio silent till she texts me first this time? It has already been 3 days, should I ignore her till the weekend? Is it too early? Am I expecting much?