Hey guys , first time poster here , but I've been reading heartiste, gLL etc for a while now .

Basically , I haven't been very successful with girls in about a year and a half . I've only fucked 3 girls in that time , and two of them were older / less attractive then what I was used to before.

Before this I was dating this super hot girl for about two years , then she dumped me when she found out I was fucming this other very hot girl on the side . At the time I really didn't care , but oddly enough , as time passed I developed what I can only describe as a serious one-it is over my ex ! Lol I k ow it's super weird , but mentally it's been holding me back , especially on my "not giving a fuck" aspect , which I used to have in spades.

Now I feel very self-conscious , and haven't really met a hot girl I've clicked with in a while ; I'm either blinding myself to their interest or I'm genuinely coming off as a broken up loser .

My latest "thing" with a girl just ended ; she was 35, attractive for her age (not fat, very willing in bed , not a bitch ) I'm 26. She thought we were boyfriend girlfriend , I kind of lead her on. But I was using her to build my confidence , but I never really felt it come back. She would always tell me how sexy and smart etc I am, but it just never went to my head.

Anyway, would appreciate some advice or encouragement . I know out of anywhere , guys here would understand. Thanks