I made a post earlier this week explain my situation. This girl I met in Oregon on vacation, I slept with her we’ve kept in contact and she flew out here this last weekend (all this happened within a month and a half from meeting her to her flying out, met her in November). She’s a software engineer in New York, she’s offered to pay half my ticket to go see here the 28-2. Last night after work I responded to her sending me a Snapchat of her nipple where I left a hickey.

I replied to her snap saying “looks good on you I’ll have to leave a couple more.” She replies “please do just not on my neck I need to be professional for work”. She then asked if I was interested in using straps I had which I said “I’m interested in not using condoms also” (previous to this convo i had suggested we both get tested, she has an iud) she cracked a joke saying “quick sex session i guess “. I told her “I don’t think so” she says “ lots of practice in L.A” I responded with a simple “ you know I don’t kiss and tell”.. she then asks one of the dumbest questions I’ve ever heard.

“I want your explicit permission to sleep with other guys, I don’t want to ruin it between us”

Me : Are you asking me to be exclusive “

Her : no not yet

Me : you do you, pick me up some condoms from when I’m there.

Her: what if I make them where condoms?

Me: I’m okay, I’m not going to jeopardize my health, get those straps ready.

Her : are you fucking anyone else?

Me: Not today, didn’t think you’d be the jealous type.

Her: are you going to fuck someone before you get here?

Me: you don’t need to worry about that.

Her: how can I be forthcoming when your not? How can I trust you?

Her: you make my heart sad sometimes with impersonal stuff.

Me : I’m looking forward to seeing you, I gotta run

Her: send me your flight info, I need to know if you’re coming.

Me : I’ll see you the 28th

Her : alright goodnight.

This was probably foolish on my end to have such a long conversation.. in fact I usually only send 2-4 texts to her daily and she reaches out 95% of the time. I’m currently debating if I should fly out to see her. I don’t know if this was a shit test or what. I can’t imagine a girl asking me if it’s okay for her to fuck another guy. Any opinions or suggestions? Thanks in advance.