Hello everyone,

First of all thank you for the great support this community has been lately. I realized I've been blue pill a couple months ago and I've been changing a lot since then.

I've been with this girl for a year now, occasionnally long distance but we make things work. Lately we've been better than ever, and I think it's because I've swallowed the red pill and stopped giving too many fucks.

My girlfriend is nice overall but has this one quirk where she escapes any sort of philosophical or analytical thinking. I don't give a damn because I don't really require such a trait in her but sometimes we happen to be together and without realizing it I ask her what she thinks of some question. Yesterday, we were watching this singing show and I told her I thought there had to be something more to art than just complexity, that just doing something others can't do obviously wasn't enough, then asked her what she thought that extra thing was. She avoided my question coldly, which I didn't realize then. I get a little zealous when telling others about my opinions. So I thought she didn't get my point and explained a little more. Then I asked her what she thought, and out of the blue, she went all disrespectful, ranting about how I like to complicate things and how I talk too much, about me thinking I'm such a great mind and how she doesn't give a damn about that conversation. I tried to not give in and told her calmly that she was being disrespectful and that she had to stop, but she kept pressing to the point where I told her to go fuck herself and stopped talking to her, which I think I shouldn't have done, but how frustrating it is to not be able to express yourself freely with your SO ? I mean I understand if it's some topic she doesn't want to talk about or someday where's she's sick, but she always goes agressive about this kind of thing and it's driving me nuts, I feel like if I say what is on my mind, I'm in for another round of shit.

The day after, she doesn't talk to me, avoid any contact with me, you know, the cold treatment. Why ? Because I got mad at her being passive agressive for no reason and used foul language. We were at her place and I was getting hungry, I asked her if she was going to make anything to which she responded by saying I can get my stuff and make it. I then said : Are you going to be like this for the rest of the day ? I feel I'm wasting my time. She said : Yes, I'll stay like this. I said : Til when ? She said : Don't know. I left and before leaving, I left her a little text where I said she could only talk to me when she realizes her mistake, which I explained briefly to avoid her acting like she did nothing, which is her way of dealing with things when she fucks up.

She waits for a couple of hours then floods me with angry texts about how bad it was that I insulted her and told her to fuck off, basically avoiding the issue and making drama. I didn't give in and stuck to my point, which was : you deserve no respect if you don't respect me, and that goes for our conversations as well. She carried on so I said she should stop and only talk to me when she understands what she's done. She said she may never talk again because she's so sure she's right, but I didn't respond to the threat and simply said I liked her confidence, then logged off.

I've always been the one to fix things, whether it was my bad or (which is a lot of the time) her mistake. She always rationalizes what she does and I'm sick of being the one who always says we should sit down and talk and her being the one who gets up and leaves in the middle of the reconciliation when she feels like it. I've been very beta about this and I think it's a good idea to let her come to me this time. She's not special and if she doesn't want to try to fix it, I'm willing to move on.

I want to know what you guys think. Your insight on this would be helpful.