Social anxiety

StoneHurk · 2019-08-22T17:44:43+00:00

I had the exact same problems as you when I was a teenager. Basically, drink lots of water. Eat better. Stop jerking off to porn. And you keep doing what you're doing. Never shut yourself indoors.

You go out there and talk to people and girls. No you will not get laid, but you can keep failing over and over. Until eventually, you run out of fucks to give. Only then will you be freed from your self-imposed shackles.

Also work at a part time job or volunteer at a place where you're forced to interact with people. That helps too.

red-iron-man · 2019-08-22T17:38:45+00:00

I used to have the exact same issue. Start off by promising yourself that you will talk to at least one person everyday. Doesn't even have to be a long conversation. You can start by just be saying hi, or how's it going. I also listened to a few audio books back in the day on the topic of small talk.
Each day I'd incorporate what I learned from these. It takes practice but it definitely gets easier if you keep pushing yourself.

Social skills are almost like a muscle. At first you feel very weak doing a new exercise, but over time it gets easier.

showerdudes9 · 2019-08-22T19:25:01+00:00

Ill bet so much money on that you masturbate and watch porn. I had the exact same problem. Literally just as bad. Until i stopped masturbating and watching porn. 1-2 months later and zero anxiety. Literally zero

[deleted] · 2019-08-22T18:09:40+00:00

Look at the pinned post in my profile for the section on dealing with this and self-administered exposure therapy.

pr0t0star · 2019-08-22T18:30:52+00:00

Do you have a job? Getting a job is the hardest step. Make sure its full time.

Then read the red pill handbook, 2nd edition.

Emphasis on the parts that explain no one gives a fuck about you. You will become more aggressive and wont beat around the bush with people.

You have a fear of rejection.

You also need an abundance mindset, even if you dont care play that stupid dumbass superficial game of trying to get as many friends as possible.

L3onard3 · 2019-08-22T19:42:33+00:00

Volunteer at a nursing home. If you can’t talk to seniors, then I don’t know who you can talk to. Also, you might actually learn something there too. Some of those old dudes in there are red pillers and are fucking all the old ladies in there.

morescoobysnacks · 2019-08-22T22:32:07+00:00

beating social anxiety is so difficult that most sufferers appear to never overcome it to any significant degree, giving up and settling for a shit life. akin to most men being unable to cold approach women and never having a sexual life worth a fuck. 90% of the incel community exists because of social anxiety disorder. might be safe to say 90% of the redpill community exists because of social anxiety disorder too. we have 5,000 ways to teach game, when all you really have to do is memorize a few lines, lift for 2-3 years, and go outside. people make it seem difficult because if they told anyone the truth, there'd be no money to make. (this isn't meant to dismiss concerns of very short and/or ugly guys--you dudes have it much tougher, no doubt.)

the disorder is usually the result of a mixture of false beliefs (also refereed to as irrational thoughts or maladaptive thinking) about reality. e.g. if you say the wrong thing and/or don't behave according to what you believe is socially acceptable, people will judge you or maybe even harm you. the solution is to put yourself in situations that make you feel just a little anxious and stay in them until you can relax. most self-improvement books explain this in their own way- to always be just outside your comfort zone. it's the only way you can improve. then push the boundaries over and over again. overtime, your brain adapts, realizing there is virtually no consequence to anything you'd like to do. those who do push themselves far enough forget they ever struggled unless they're reminded of it. it's simply not who they are anymore.

the most important improvements take a long, long time. keep that fact in the forefront of your mind. progress is horribly slow. don't forget it. think of all of this as a marathon. lifting is a marathon, overcoming social anxieties is a marathon, learning game is a marathon, building a career is a marathon. don't compare yourself to others, don't put yourself down, be proud of yourself, congratulate yourself for each step forward that you take. most importantly, stay consistent. put together a strategy that gets you in a social environment daily and never give it up. create a healthy, active baseline. go to AA 2x a day and fake being an alcoholic if you have to. do whatever the fuck you gotta do.

throaway69404 · 2019-08-22T22:37:07+00:00

Watch peaky blinders, californication and learn from the Alphas shown in the both the tvcs.

Also watch clips of arigold from entourage, and Don draper from madmen

Watch these and they will hopefully make you realise that your fears are pointless, and you are just a big pussy with no guts.

Sickem_roy · 2019-08-23T09:40:30+00:00

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-08-22T17:32:18+00:00

Go to an edm party by yourself and take a couple of hits of MDMA. Do it a bunch of times.

Unnecessary emotional bonding with strangers is a side effect. You will get past it pretty fast and females are easy when they are on pills.

mok_88 · 2019-08-22T17:46:10+00:00

you got social anxiety because girls are not confortable around you.

because of your low smv, improving your smv will make girls do the extra effort to make you confortable around them.

quarternickledime · 2019-08-22T21:43:13+00:00

The only thing that will actually help you is getting on anxiety meds. Lexapro works for me

Title	Social anxiety
Author	Alexander290
Upvotes	3
Comments	31
Date	August 22, 2019 5:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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