I just read through "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

I feel like I'm a social chameleon and by trying to please everyone, I please no one, including myself.

But how does one discover their true self?

Will my true self be revealed after I change my personal paradigm?

Do I have to build it through, say, dedication to hobbies or spending more time with other males?

Or, do I need to spend more time with some serious self reflection? The author suggests taking a trip alone. Has anyone tried this?

Thanks