Soft nexting

RedSkeller · 2019-03-16T17:55:44+00:00

Oh they know. If she's talking to other guys maybe it's time to reassess the relationship or go plate shopping. You can't worry about the outcome because it will further set you back.

AloofusMaximus · 2019-03-16T20:11:54+00:00

You're going to next her cause YOU'RE needy and insecure. Of course she won't know, because it's you're fucking problem not hers.

Store_Front_Door · 2019-03-16T17:54:41+00:00

This is where covert communication comes in to play, in my opinion. A girl does something that doesn't fly by you, you covertly express your displeasure while still being able to deflect any accusations and maintain frame, it can be an eyeroll, different intonation, extra second of silence. And then you begin to imply dread. Because I also think that dread without a reason known to both parties won't have a positive effect (for example if you're snooping her messages behind her back and then dread her, she most likely won't fix that behavior)

boy_named_su · 2019-03-16T18:57:03+00:00

If she calls you out in front of your friends, then you don't talk to her for a week, she'll figure it out. Girls do that shit to each other all the time. They know what's up

nexther · 2019-03-16T19:03:53+00:00

Are they fucking?

TheGoldenLeprechaun · 2019-03-16T20:25:50+00:00

The point of any next is not for her. It's for you. To save you time and energy that could be spent getting other girls or making coin$.

Now you also mentioned punishment and learning. Aka you want to train a bitch. Assuming in this hypothetical that your bitch is being truly disrespectful by talking to this guy and she has no good excuse for doing so, it means you have no frame. Frame is gone. Window is gone. The entire house is in disrepair. Training bitches and soldiers can only be done from a superior position, something a frame-less man doesn't have.

The prescription pill for this example is:

Full dread or hard next.

Note: Humansockpuppet has a "guide on training bitches", an easy google search. You can use that to simulate various scenarios.

WIA20XX · 2019-03-17T06:01:40+00:00

From the guy that invented the term - http://blackdragonblog.com/2016/07/11/several-real-life-examples-soft-nexts/

Title	Soft nexting
Author	MrBigBolls
Upvotes	2
Comments	21
Date	March 16, 2019 5:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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