Somewhat unique low self esteem situation

Janoytoothbrush · 2020-01-08T05:20:34+00:00

Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. I say and do silly stuff all the time. I’m sure there are going to be comments about lifting, and eating right, and those are all very good building blocks of confidence. To me, experience is the best teacher. Make yourself be social. In college, it is almost forced, so it is easier than in the real world. Even the biggest extroverts are sometimes timid in new surroundings. Key here is they adapt quickly.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-08T05:46:57+00:00

I have a hobby/passion career interest. I think I'm very adaptable/capable, above average. And I have a net of close friends I cherish and can rely on, around them I can be myself easily and I'm usually the life of the party when around and I can talk to about anyone, their is no deep thought going on when doing so just fun conversation and times.

My advice is stop trying to qualify yourself.

Get other people to qualify themselves to you instead.

Don't try to do it to us. We don't care about your personality or style. Nobody gives a shit but you, so you should stop giving a shit what other people think of your lifestyle or supposed social skills.

We care about what actions you're taking.

As a person I know I struggle with emotional intelligence and lack it more than others

You're not struggling. What you're doing is the opposite of struggle which would be to confront your fears and step out of your comfort zone. The problem is you find it effortless to be be boring as fuck which you need to stop practicing. Stop being boring.

and while I'm not an entire introvert I can be more introverted0 than others I still have an urge to socialize but for some reason I just can't.

Sorry to hear that. Do it anyway.

Stop being autistic. Smile, make eye contact with people. Learn their names and say "hi." Ask questions. Bust their balls a little bit.

I'm tired of it this feeling.

No you aren't. You sounds like you're the opposite of sick and tired, which is being eager to make laughble excuses and rationalizations for your self-defeating behavior.

"I just can't." You choose to stay silent because you'd rather see yourself as a helpless special outsider, ignored by everyone.

Because if you were truly sick and tired you'd stop whining on the internet and say literally anything to people around you.

Title	Somewhat unique low self esteem situation
Author	LeastAssociate6
Upvotes	5
Comments	3
Date	January 8, 2020 4:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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