Small intro: I'm 31, was in a oneitis relationship for 10 years until August. Managed to find the courage to get out of it before going full beta.

Got into BDSM (always was interested but ex wasn't) but lack any kind of experience..

I go to a lot of munches and local events and manage to hold good frame through most of them. The only problem is when I actually ask a girl out or suggest we play together. One of their first questions is always what kind of experience I have (=the shit test) and I'm finding it difficult to lie about that. I lack several skills (bondage, etc.) and I opened up in the community do everyone basically knows I'm a newbie.

There's one low level girl who has taken interest in me but I'm afraid being associated with her will hurt my perceived value more than whatever I can learn from her will make up.

It's like when you're applying for your first job and they only want people with actual job experience.

Any advice?