So my family is religious (muslim) and I'm not entirely religious at all. I smoke and drink occasionally and what not.

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I have friends who used to have similar issues as me but got out of it but their suggestions aren't working as planned. While I know all my issues are going to be entirely resolved by moving out, that isn't an option yet. I'm a college student graduating in 2 months, with a comp sci degree. Going to pay off student loans then move out but only issue is, buying a house. I understand I will be living in an apartment for a while as soon as I move out but a house here in NY costs 1 million+ and living in an apartment I definitely won't afford seeing as rent would be a good amount. I'd have to save till 50 to buy the house.

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On top of that, my main issue is transparency with my parents. I could constantly deny the stuff I do and hold them off but I truly want to be transparent with them. I want them to realize I am 22 and I am allowed to go out and drink since it's legal here. Only issue is their guilt tripping and emotional blackmailing once they find out. I openly told my dad and he didn't take it well at all. I usually start getting my phone blown up, no pun intended, at 9pm asking where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with and when I'll be home. I'm 22... I want to find a way to be transparent with them so the issues can be resolved but I feel like it'd cause more havoc as my 25 year old brother is also really religious and is always having my parents chase me because he think's I'm going "bad." I've been pushing my limits slowly and just ignoring their calls showing up at 2am sometimes but only on weekends. I barely smoke, once every 2 months if that even. Drinking is occasionally too, my birthday is coming up and a group of friends and I have made plans to go a club at night. I’ve also gotten to the point of not caring if I get caught with condoms cause honestly what are they going do, get mad at me for practicing safe sex? She also found out I'm trying to go out with friends on my birthday and now insists only way I go is if I take the whole family with me...

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So would constantly ignoring and dealing with be the way to go here, or being transparent be the way to go? I understand this may be viewed as a dumb question but I feel I am truly trapped. I feel depressed thinking about, thinking my lifes full potential isn't being filled. I'm not even allowed to leave the state, drive out of state without them flipping shit. I'm convinced my mom is bat shit crazy at this point but still, what would be the best course of action?