I’ve read the sidebar. “Agree” with everything. Been having some success.

I’m in an unusual spot because increasing my SMV has been doubly productive in generating interest because I have good facial aesthetics. But there’s a problem in me that’s been holding me back.

Example: went out to the bar with some friends and met many other people there. I had women openly soliciting me for sex, some of them even front of their boyfriends (we were all pretty drunk). I handled the conflicts well by ingratiating myself to the men.

But I didn’t go home with anyone. As the bar cleared out, women continued to come up to me to solicit sex. Typical conversation: “ohmigod you look just like [celebrity], I just think you are so, so hot” (touching my leg).

I started off months ago diving right in to the game, but my lack of general experience still makes me self conscious about sexual performance.

That night at the bar I had extreme whisky dick, but I had this weird “realization” while drunk that I wasn’t actually attracted to these women and that I could do much better. The fact is that I could do much better, but I think I’m buffering because I still tend towards the oneitis mechanism of idealization of women to mitigate personal insecurity.

I had a terrible marriage and got out of it, but apparently I didn’t learn my lesson.

What might help with these things?

  • buffering against fucking in my social circle out of insecurity

  • looking for easy lays among less attractive and socially distant women out of insecurity

  • idealizing a non-existent woman that isn’t as easy as the others, with more class and intelligence

  • ignoring/opting out of following up on women approaching me in public