TLDR: girl from Tinder spends the weekend at my place. Whenever we have sex I'm having difficulties time getting hard, and staying hard. Kinda have feelings for another girl and it feels like I'm cheating on her is my only explanation.

Body: I had a girl from Tinder over this weekend. We've been talking on Facebook for about a month. A few weeks ago, we made plans to see each other over a weekend. Partying and stuff.

The first night nothing happens. We have a few drinks and make small talk. We spoon when we go to bed, but that's it.

The next day we start drinking pretty early. We're having fun the entire evening and she's starting to soften up but still no signals. We go to the pub, have a few drinks, mingle with some people and have fun. She's chatting with some guy and I seem unfazed. I try to invite another girl over to our table but the girl rejects me. "Your loss", I say to the girl and make my way back to my girl. A little while later she wants to go home. She's still not flirty. Playing hard to get? Shy? Just not attracted to me? If not attracted, why would she come see me for an entire weekend? I'm getting a little bit confused.

We get home and she gets to bed in only her panties. I doesn't notice at first but when I do notice she doesn't have a bra on I make a move. We fool around but I'm having difficulties to get hard. Once I do, I can't stay hard for five minutes. I'm getting frustrated and lose it completely. I feel like a fucking failure. I'm physically attracted to the girl and I like her too. I'm just not that close to her yet, and I'm starting to get feelings for another girl. For some stupid reason I kinda feel like I'm cheating on the other girl. We fool around some more this morning and afternoon but I still can only get a semi and won't stay hard at all. I kinda feel silly for not being able to enjoy(or even performing during) sex with out having a connection with the girl.

I want to keep seeing the girl from this weekend but I'm not sure if she's that into the idea of keep seeing me anymore. I'm thinking a soft next is on the way from her.

 

  • Has anyone had similar issues?
  • How do I avoid getting to invested in a girl?
  • Can I recover with the girl from this weekend? She told me multiple times she too felt like a failure for not being able to get me hard, and that it's really no big deal(I don't believe her entirely).

EDIT: I'm thinking I might talk to her about me not feeling too close with her, and that might be why I was having issues with the sex. I'm leaning towards not doing it(saying less is more), but for some reason I want to explain why it went like it did. Now I'm guessing most of you are gonna vote against this, so I'd like to hear some input.

 

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