Virginity

abdada · 2015-01-29T18:06:14+00:00

First of all, AWALT.

Second of all, I know many women who admit to having had their virginity taken by many different guys.

If you're looking to marry, a virgin sounds great and all, but (a) you'll never really know, and (b) you will constantly have to challenge the media she watches and reads that tell her she needs to have more experience on the CC.

SenorPuff · 2015-01-29T18:33:40+00:00

Yes. The number of sexual partners a woman has(and a man, but to a lesser degree, with less overall side effects) directly influences her brain chemistry due to the oxytocin induced memory effect. When humans have sex, especially when they reach climax, when women beast feed, and also in post coital touching, a hormone called oxytocin is released. This is called the 'bonding hormone.' It increases attachment in women(and men to a lesser degree) and encourages care, primarily this incentivizes a woman to stick with the father of a child, and to actually care for a child. In men, it increases aggression towards threats, which is not in and of itself bad, but can make you lose frame.

The side effect of this is, the first oxytocin memory will be the strongest. Girls always remember their first. But more importantly, these chemically induced memories are not meant to be broken. By riding the CC, a woman is entirely confusing her brains ability to bond. This makes her a poor candidate mate and mother.

That said, oxytocin is not a miracle worker. It will not forge an unbreakable bond, otherwise every woman would be monogamous with their first. It merely influences them. So you still have to be careful of the rest of the influences in her life. If she's a good churchgoing girl, all of her family and friends would shame her for being a slut, she values family and having a strong mate, and you took her virginity, you're in pretty good shape, but also, if she's only had one LTR to whom she lost her virginity, and still holds those values, you're still alright. If she is simply a virgin who places zero value on being a woman ie being tender, being responsible in homelike tasks, being an attractive mate, then it's not likely the influence taking her virginity has will overcome her social conditioning.

TDLR: yes, but social conditioning also plays a very big, possibly bigger role.

frequentlywrong · 2015-01-29T19:32:57+00:00

It completely depends on her surroundings (environment, friends, family). The reason women in the west are so fucked up, is because they are bombarded with messages to slut it up. To focus on her career. To forget about a family until at least 30 years old. To have fun in their twenties. The downsides are dismissed and hamstered away. This is the female hive-mind normal that we live in and women look to each other on how to behave way more than guys do.

If you have game, if you know how to maintain frame, then you have a better chance than anyone. But in the modern world it is an uphill battle. If she comes from a healthy family. One with a dominant/alpha father, the chances are much better than if she comes from a dysfunctional one. She will be looking for an environment that she grew up in. If it was fucked up, she is way more likely to end up in a fucked up one as well.

Title	Virginity
Author	Ayoung4u
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	January 29, 2015 5:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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