Been going to extra curricular club after classes for a while now. Met a few good friends, did some stuff. Met a girl whom I asked out. This was this past December. She accepted, had a good time, didn't touch or kiss or anything. Asked her out again, to which she replied she was going to be busy studying for finals. I thought" fair enough", and we didn't make contact again until last week due to the break between semesters. Figured I would see if she wanted to hang out again. She said she was busy this weekend yet again. I have no intention of asking her out again. My question lies with does not showing up to the club meetings reflect me feeling defeated to her? My friends and I agree that the club isn't fun any longer and only reason was to see if we could get with girls. I won't miss the club if I don't go. Or do I show up and hit on other girls (who are her friends) and just not give a fuck what she thinks? My reason for not showing up again would be she was basically the only girl I felt interested in pursuing. But I am also on good terms with her friends and I can see tentative avenues I can explore with them